Men who are in long term relationship, what do you really expect from your partner?

[Bloodparadise]

Men who are in long term relationship, what do you really expect from your partner?

Do you like the long talks, outing, or do you like sex, making out?

What made you stick with your partner?

[Tarifa]

20+ years with my partner, the mother of our daughter. It's a tight bond that goes way beyond the obvious. As the years go by, you get to know every strength and flaw of your partner. Nobody is perfect, and I certainly don't pretend to be perfect. We have mutual interests and hobbies, but are also quite different as far as personality is concerned. You could say we complement each other in many ways.

Routine is the only thing that can get at the foundations of a long term relationship. But daily routine also signifies having a common purpose in life. Work, family and kids all take time away from being together. It's important to find periods of time where you can be just the two of you.

There are times when you wonder how life would have been with a previous partner. There are times when you meet someone during your current relationship and wonder what would have happened if you had met her earlier. But I am conscious enough to know that decisions are to be respected. Deciding to share your life with someone, no matter what, is one of the biggest decisions you'll make. If it's mutual, that's where your common life story begins.

In short, your partner can be a friend, a confident, a passionate lover and the caring mother of your kids.

[lightbulb27]

I really enjoy her as a person. I enjoy just being with her talking, going about. We talk and it's good, we see things similar.

The stress is low and the peace is high.

Sleeping is easy, and that is key because without sleep, we fall apart.

I'm past the early life hormonal stages and was married late, so answers may be modified at younger age in terms of "needs" but I think the above holds true for life.

When I see others married long time, those hold true.

I think a lot of people don't understand the above... they fight and die on the battlegrounds of selfishness, their opinions and stress. Under the weight of climbing financial ladders, making daily life decisions, children rearing and job stresses... they crack and fall. Stress is the major killer. No stress is bad but too much for the given persons will ruin anything.

Above all, keep healthy focus in mind, body, and spirit.

[AvaRay]

I don’t expect perfection, just peace, honesty, n loyalty.

Someone who listens even when I’m quiet, who understands my chaos without judging it..

I don’t need grand gestures, just consistency, presence, n truth..

Love shouldn’t drain u, it should ground u..

I want a connection that feels calm yet magnetic, not someone who’s perfect for the world, but someone who feels like home in mine..

[Zionne]

Many men value a mix of emotional connection and physical intimacy—feeling understood, supported, and appreciated alongside shared fun and closeness. Long talks, shared adventures, and playful or romantic touch all matter in different ways. What keeps them is usually a combination of trust, respect, love, and feeling like their partner genuinely sees and values them.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, what a spicy question! As a relationship coach, I'm here to help you navigate these mysterious, long-term waters. What men want often varies, but many treasure those deep talks and meaningful connections. The magic is in balancing intimacy, from Netflix cuddles to spicy moments 😉. It's all about comfort, trust, and sometimes, just sharing a quirky laugh. What keeps most is an emotional bond that doesn't fade—like the comfy pair of sweatpants you never want to take off! 😄

[AviatorTom]

I don't expect much, other than that they will put up with me, whether good things or bad things are happening.

I've been pretty successful at that. My first marriage lasted 20 years, and my second (current) marriage is at almost 9 years and counting.

[OlderAndWiser]

If course I like the sex, but what I expect is loyalty, affection, sincerity, and openness.

[BriamG22]

I was in a long term relationship but not anymore, so my input isn't exactly credible or the most relevant 😅 haha but I would say all of the things you mentioned are activities that we enjoyed immensely.

Ultimately its a relationship right? Anything we do, we do together. All the things you listed are conducive to a healthy long term relationship, one doesn't outweigh the other.

What made me stick for so long was comfortability, trust, support, understanding and so on. Of course the lust and eros was no longer as intense as the initial stages but what you get in return definitely feels more valuable.

[strateguy632]

1, "expect" to find "middle ground " in debates, for the sake of relationship. Also intimacy not just friend zone. If she did these, we stuck, until she dumped me.

Do you like the long talks? Please no! Not long talks. outing? No touring trips needed, or do you like sex, yes it is the main difference between relationship and just friends.

[Purpleronnie]

Well I continually ‘expect’ to be treated the way I treat her.


Firstly and most basically , respect , and as an equal.


Those activities that you mention in your description are by no means a given in my opinion , at least not without your emotional needs being met and being relatively happy

[George-ks300]

I really don't care at all about waiting for her to give me gifts or spend to surprise me.. I just want to be open , kind , trusting each other , responsible , mature and maturness here is a big yes for me , romantic , express our love , I blindly trust her as she respects me in my existence and abscense , loyalty too , speak together to end any arguments between us when we calm down

[molonski2]

Long term? Well sex will have nothing / little to do with it.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

"Respect" covers ALL expectations.

[fivebyfour]

Marriage, not happening yet, 1st Jan I will repeat my proposal, if turned down then I'm gone from her life,,,

[qwerty2469]

Very little. We've been married for 20 years. She's failed me almost every day and in every way. We live in the same house but completely separate. I cannot count on her for anything.

[molonski2]

You married at age 6 ?

[qwerty2469]

Im 44.

[molonski2]

I see..
Was your marriage always like that?

[qwerty2469]

Yes. It took me a couple years to give up though. So many times I sat in the rain waiting for her, or walked 8 miles home because she forgot.

[molonski2]

Wholly sht mate -- so sorry , that's terrible.

[qwerty2469]

Like I said. Its been 20 years. Its not terrible, its normal

[molonski2]

It's not normal man.

[qwerty2469]

It is normal. Ask any married man.

[molonski2]

I've been married B4 never like that though.

[Shiprex]

Loyalty and commitment. Intimacy and friendship. Make home a safe peaceful and loving space.

[jahaims]

It's all of those things and more. Intimacy, affection, vulnerability all kinds of things make a relationship work

[Anonymous]

I like all those things.

I stuck with her because she makes my life better and I'm grateful to have her. She feels the same, and we both work at being someone the other is grateful for.

[Anonymous]

I've never been in any kind of relationship, but if I were, I would expect a committed relationship.

[Paige90]

I expect him to be my best friend

[stratford]

The inner kink needs to be aligned.

[Anonymous]

lol long talks

[Rena4]

Expect loyalty, companionship, and communication.

[MeAndYouRightHere]

Love, respect, maturity, honesty,

[Fireguy17]

Honesty.

[Anonymous]

Money from her parents

[krin_m]

All of it.