How has your "type" changed over time? What do you think it says about you?

[HawkPerception]

[VioletHaze]

Interesting question.

Before, I was into the more sweet, caring humble sort. The kind in touch with their feelings.

Now, I am drawn to intelligence, even if he is arrogant about it. And driven men. The kind I have to coax smiles from.

What does that say about me? I prefer men who are more intelligent than myself. I'd rather be understood, than showered with affection. And I'd like a more complementary relationship, where I provide the warmth and he the structure.

I don't care for looks, so long as he isn't ugly, much shorter than myself or has blonde hair for some reason.

[HawkPerception]

Great answer

[VioletHaze]

How has your type changed?

[HawkPerception]

I've always been attracted to...

Intelligence (curious and introspective minds that like talking about stuff like psychology, philosophy, and just sharing ideas about everything. Not necessarily book smart, but being able to think about scenarios and come up with logical opinions or conclusions of their own).

Physical coordination (not necessarily super strong, but girls that have a lot of control over their bodies and are active. I like it when they can do the same activities as me).

Feminine girls who like to wear dresses and actually act like women. Not feeling the need to compete with men.

Outdoorsy women who like to do stuff like camping, kayaking, hiking, etc.

The only change that's happened over the years is I used to be attracted to girls more on the shy side because that's what I am myself and I thought I'd be more comfortable around it. Now I find it's draining to get those kinds of girls out of their comfort zones or break the ice with them. I don't mind them being introverted, but I want them to be able to speak their mind openly and confidently. I want them to be confident in what they want as well. I don't want to be the only one pursuing in a relationship. I want to feel desired too. It's more fun and energizing being around someone who has confidence (even if it's a quiet confidence) than trying to get someone out of their shell or breaking their emotional barrier down.

Anyways, I know that was a bit much, but that's my answer haha.

[VioletHaze]

No worries. Definetely sounds like extroverted girls are more in your lane.

[HawkPerception]

As I mentioned, it's not necessarily about being extroverted. It's about the confidence. I could not date someone who parties and socializes with her friends 24/7. I prefer someone who is more on the introverted side and would rather stay in and have a date night with me, or go out camping and kayaking with me, rather than a girl who wants to go to concerts, raves, clubs, social events, etc.

I just want the girl to be confident in what she wants and what she thinks and not be afraid to share it.

[VioletHaze]

Ahh okay! So confident girls who can also enjoy some peace and quiet.

I prefer introverted types, but I could also go for extroverted ones if they enjoy the same activities I do.

If he tried to get me camping, he'd have to drag me out of the door though 😅

Hope you find what you are looking for!

[HawkPerception]

Appreciate ya!

[DishLady]

My “type” hasn’t changed. The same sort of guy is still naturally appealing to me. But that intuitive selection doesn’t necessarily lead to a productive relationship.


Trust your gut, not just your intuitive attraction. If your gut says “no dice” then just follow that, otherwise you end up wasting time and energy on folks who don’t deserve you.

[Simslover92]

When I was in my 20s, I will admit I was a bit on the shallow side. Seeking the bad boy athletic types with many issues that I would seek to fix but now I prefer a nerdy, down to earth, sweet and intelligent guy with no emotional unavailability.

I think it says about me that I grew from the unrealistic and shallowness that many 20 something year olds have. I became more introspective and in turn started looking for a partner who also is more introspective.

[Summeroflove]

Definitely have became more aware of narcissistic tendencies. The fake nice or sweet type… I respect someone whose a bitch more then someone whose fake.

I’ve become more drawn to women who are intelligent. Genuinely empathetic. Are driven. Are loyal have strong morals and who aren’t obnoxious but do speak their minds. Even to the point of being somewhat abrasive. Because…. I respect someone whose honest.

[AviatorTom]

Like most people, we tend to lower our standards as we get older, and that changes the "type" of person we want in a relationship.

Lowering standards is not a bad thing... it usually means our standards were way too high to begin with, and we're now more realistic.

[pass_the_celery98]

You know girls and women nowadays want an “established” guy or man. I mean if someone spends time scrolling on social media with people living fancy lives or being influenced what others have, as a guy it makes me realize something. Is she being genuine herself to me? Because I don’t think women or girls will be by a guys side as he builds himself up.

She wasn’t there when I waited for the bus in -20 degree weather heading to university pursing my grad studies, she wasn’t by my side when I pulled all nighters studying and stressed, she wasn’t by my side when I paid off my debts myself, she wasn’t by my side when I didn’t have the best job at the time. The reason why I’m saying this is because yea my type has changed over time.

If she wants a finished, well groomed, polished, mature version of myself, I expect to be a righteous, loving, caring, mature woman herself. But it’s December 2025, genuine behaviour rarely exist these days.

[HawkPerception]

That's true, and I agree, but I don't see how that answers the question of how your type has changed over time

[Crimsyjo]

I think I have become more open with time. I think I had a more specific "tall, dark, rugged" type in mind when younger. But now I find many men attractive who are taller, not as tall, blonde, brown, red haired, long hair, short hair, smooth bodied, hairy bodied...

I still like a bit of a rugged look. I think I associate it with masculinity and I like a dominant man so more smooth faced effeminate men do tend to be submissive in my experience.

I hope my change shows a growth in emotional maturity and knowledge that you can be attracted to many types because personality underneath is also very attractive. But haha maybe I'm just less able to be so fussy at my age 😂

[beenherebefore]

My type has been the same since I was in kindergarten honestly. At some point in my life while I was on the pill I tried to date outside of my preferences and oh boy now looking back I ask myself 'what was I thinking'? Years later I read an article on how the pill alters our brain and our preferences in men and makes perfect sense. I quit the pill five years ago and since then went back to dating my type and even married him.

[HawkPerception]

You've been attracted to guys since kindergarten before you even hit puberty?

[beenherebefore]

I wouldn’t say attracted but I remember very clearly finding certain boys cute in kindergarten.

[Jersey2]

What was your type and what was it on the pill? What was the difference?

[melanieeeB]

When I was a young teen I was thinking I like the typical german dude, blonde and blue eyes, Leonardo DiCaprio / Justin Bieber kind haha
Well then later I started dating and at first I did date the type I was thinking that I like but I also always went on dates with guys I just found to be nice. And so with time and experience, i learned that I don't give much shit about the looks and my list for my type started to become more character based and some physical traits

[EzraIsShy76028]

Hmm... not really overall, though my tastes have expanded.

As in when I was younger I only liked White women but now I like women of all races. Equally.

And I'm possibly/probably bi/pan but so strong leaning straight that I might as well just call myself straight.

[PeachyPie93]

I used to love white guys with black hair and blue eyes.. I suppose because the first guy who was really cute and super nice to me looked like that plus it's rare lol. Now I don't really have a type I just am attracted to cute/handsome men who are smart and caring.. I suppose it's because I dated someone totally not my type at all and grew to see his attractiveness over time that now I'm able to see beauty in other things besides what I was used to..

[Crankor]

Mine haven't changed. I've always had pretty realistic wants as a base and its nice to have variational personality than what you think you prefer sometimes. What I think it says about me? Im not stuck into this unrealistic vision of a girl i want that even if I had, that it would really be what keeps a relationship going. Im pretty adaptable to changes so long as it doesn't go against my initial requirements which again to me are not unrealistic or what a lot of people would have as being overly picky.

[queenofcardio]

Sometimes my type is all over the place. You can't help who you're attracted to sometimes

[queenofcardio]

I have dated lots of nerdy guys and maybe a couple that were athletic 🤔

[HawkPerception]

Ever dated a nerdy athletic guy?

[queenofcardio]

One played basketball so yes.

[queenofcardio]

Nerdy guys can be very sweet. They know how to say the right things to me

[HawkPerception]

Hmm interesting. Do you prefer nerdy and sweet or dominant, assertive, and aggressive

[queenofcardio]

I prefer nerdy and sweet. He can be dominant in the bedroom 😅

[HawkPerception]

Fair fair

[LuciusTheOdd]

It really hasn’t, my type is still the kind hearted, fun loving, and nurturing type.
Will I date outside of my type? Absolute, because love doesn’t give a damn about logic.

[Joshydavid25]

I've always tried to pin point my type looks wise, but I've never had one.. As long as she was a cutie with a booty I was looking.. So that hasn't changed at all.. Now in terms of personality... I didn't really have a type or didn't realize it growing up.. But now I know it's goofy, slightly nerdy, fairly extroverted girls..

[itsannalee]

This is the visual of my type.

[HawkPerception]

This doesn't answer the question of how it's changed over time and what it says about you

[benitaleonard]

This is my exact type of men
Matured and dominant looking

[Sal_Monella]

Yes, as I age.
Her type back when.

Her type, now.

[Unap0logetic_]

Mine hasn’t changed. But my tolerance has, so I think for me it’s all about maturity. I won’t tolerate nonsense.

[serious]

No, absolutely not. "My type" for me has always been the same and it will always be the same.

[Iron_Man]

My type has never changed. I always wanted a team player. A loyal, genuine team player, as far as Looks goes of course I have to be attracted to her That’s what gets your foot into the door

[MysticDevice]

To be honest my type has stayed pretty consistant forever.

Tall, slender, dorky, nerdy chicks. With a soft spot for edgy goth/scene chicks.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I think I just understand what I like and don't like in a woman now a lot better. It's hard to say, in a lot of ways I'm more strict about certain things but the women in my life have generally taught me to be comfortable kinda being more open

[Xawyx-2]

My type has never changed, I like the same type of girls that I liked when I was 18, or in my 20s, or in my 30s.

[Xawyx-2]

What does it say about me? That I'm consistent, and that I have my principles.

[Hellraiser1984]

I used to like only truly beautiful women who were skinny. but anymore I just want a nice sweet kind loving woman who just kinda chubby but cute.

[aquamarine321]

I haven’t dated in a long time, I don’t think I’ve changed much

[nik_the_cur]

It's a slow but steady shift from tall thin blonde girls to tall muscular men tbh
I think it says I'm changing and learning more about myself

[msc545]

To some extent it has. Less sleaze more brains this time around.

[exitseven]

those traits are not necessarily mutually exclusive.

[Bloodparadise]

I luv many men 😃

[robocop666]

I was always into butts. Never changed.