How do you know if you've made a huge mistake?

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I think I made a terrible mistake by not choosing neither. I met the other guy today and it went exactly like I feared it would.  I feel broken. Lost and like I will never find happiness.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Sometimes something has happen in our past and we let it destroy us in many different ways we lock ourselves up in away trying to grow. But that only happens if we stay out of our own heads. And in time. We feel as if we have stopped living. So when we decide enough is enough I'm ready to start living again so we put ourselves out there  And the first people that comes in to our lives we connect fast because they are the first to open new doors within us we are so happy about everything but  In time you realize your so happy and want a connection so bad. You realize your also wear rose colored glasses  Somehow in my life I get to meet more girls than guys and of course in one split second my brain heart and dick all start talking at the same time are it's hard to hear who's saying what   But what I have learned is just because I meet a girl does not me have to try to sleep with them even tho well of course I would love to. But the reality of it all is, if you're going to sleep with them, then you have to date them. And how long is that really going to last? Be honest with yourself. Take more time to understand each person What's more important getting in their pants are true friendship This is when you have to be honest with yourself. This is when you throw away loneliness horniness. And the craving of wanting to be romantic with somebody.. Because down deep , we already know if it would last or not , and it's usually no So being honest with myself I weight it out carefully  It takes 2 seconds
Even those that I like them and I like them a lot. The reality is a relationship just will not work out and then you are broken up acting a fool. So I dont allow my self to go there any more  Even though I would truly love to get in their pants , but I know in the long run , I would hurt them , they would hurt me and it's not meant to be , but a friendship People come into our lives for a reason , either we're going to help them , or they're going to help us We have a message for them , or they have one for us  They come into our life for a reason , a season or a lifetime I love the enthusiasm.
The high that you get when you meet somebody.
This is your learning experience , so you have to figure it out i have complete faith in you that you will do just that in your own time  There is no right way or wrong way. There's only the learning experience way. Because we are all different

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

Young lady, you are a drama queen. You do this to yourself. You fall in "love" instantly every few weeks with the wrong guys and then either he ends it or you end it in the subsequent few weeks which sends you spiraling into melancholy and depression about your life.

Stop dating guys who aren't local. Military guys are always going to be mobile that is the nature of their job. They go away and come back. Or not. Guys an hour and a half away are always going to make logistics complicated.
Find one guy and stick with him and only him until you figure out if he has possibilities or not. Get off the dating apps and stop looking for love with online gamers. Meet guys face to face in the real world within a reasonable radius of home.
Stop getting involved with religious freaks and other guys with mental or sociological problems.
Stop obsessing over finding a guy and just relax into your own life. Let things happen organically. Meanwhile enjoy life. That vibe can be picked up by guys.

Basically stop riding your own personal emotional roller coaster.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Yesterday was Saturday and I was thinking 🤔 about how your date with the other guy went. Now I know.

I got ta thinkin that he wanted you to get baptized and send you naked pictures of yourself. Hummm!!

Honestly, I didn't believe that he would be what you hoped he would be. It was kinda like a blind date and those rarely turn out good.

Sorry he wasn't what you were hoping for.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

It is always about the aftermath—the way the air feels in the room, the pit in your stomach, and the long-term consequences that start to reveal themselves. However, we all make mistakes, and with the right attitude, they only make us stronger.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Helping people navigate the dating maze is my thing! 🤓 Making choices in love can be tough, and sometimes it feels like you've hit a wall. But remember, it's all part of the journey. Feeling broken today doesn't mean you're broken forever. Each experience is a lesson in disguise. You might have just dodged a relationship red flag without realizing it. Give yourself time to heal and grow. Happiness will find you when you least expect it. Keep your heart open, and maybe some lovebombing from the right person is just around the corner. 💖

Summeroflove · Answer

Well many people put happiness into finding someone… and then marry the wrong person and not only still be miserable themselves but make someone else as miserable as they are.

It’s great to find someone in the end. But it takes time. Not everyone is right. That doesn’t make someone else automatically bad… they may be great people and you as well. But you’re not compatible.

Others are turds…. And they did you a favor. Believe me…. As much as it hurts. It hurts more being with them for long periods of time.

HawkPerception · Answer

When it comes to dating, you always have to be honest and decisive. If you're not honest, the other person is likely to eventually pick up on it and think poorly of you and end whatever relationship you had. And if you're not decisive and there's someone else you're seeing, they'll feel like they aren't worth it to you and make the decision for you (let you choose the other person).

You have to know what you want and go for it.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Once I analyzed human sexuality deeply enough I realized it's the most reptile brain part of us. It's us at our savage worst. Now I practice celibacy, sex is literally all you're ever going to get, that's the whole draw of it at it's core. That's why in the 21st century people have sex a lot and not much else, any real relationship just falls apart. I think women stayed with men in the past out of necessity not because they were in love with these men. Maybe for a few years but after that I think it was necessity and social pressure. Some people want to bring back necessity to cure the problem but that's just living a lie. I say scrap the whole backward system, sex just isn't enough, now we all have STDs anyway. Use machines for reproduction, it's right on the horizon.

Still-alive · Answer

It's just kind of a gut feeling. you know when it happens.

sorry for whatever happened to you. take as much time as you need to cope with whatever happened then when you feel better get back up and try again. there's always another day and another guy (or girl in my case lol).

lightbulb27 · Answer

you need a work... self reflection, emotional development. therapist, God time, past healing, confidence and self esteem building... should be in your future.

finding a good relationship is your motivator.

Seek wise counselors...

Spend more time learning...

Screenwriter · Answer

You met both guys and neither of them worked? Well. All you can do is lick your wounds and start again. You aren't dead yet, so don't give up hope.

Cool off and start again when you feel that you can.

rebelsunshine · Answer

I provided some feedback for you on the other thread. Would you accept my follow request? I'm in a similar situation and I know I need to work on myself first.

FreyaRed · Answer

"... it went exactly like I feared it would" I suppose the first one wasn't an option either. Stop blaming yourself for something you couldn't avoid or control.

supercutebutt · Answer

The reason you will never find happiness is because you think another person can make you happy.

Curmudgeon · Answer

Sorry to read that. i was hoping and I keep hoping for happy endings, even when my cyinical soul doubts.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m sorry. What happened? I thought things were going good with the other guy.

bowenw · Answer

I believe you know if you are feeling you want to be with one or the other.

Shiprex · Answer

Not to worry @simslover92  This is a learning and living experience you will grow and blossom from.

dudeinohio · Answer

What happened? I hope this wasn't a traumatic situation.  There are lots of guys. Many are the decent type. You'll find someone. Patience and persistence is key.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

That's baloney. You just started looking. You think you'll find love "off the peg"? How about you be realistic for a change?

Jltakk · Answer

Romantically? When I'm sitting alone, mentally arrested and defeated, wondering if focusing on studies was worth sacrificing ever having a partner in high school and college.

jenna815 · Answer

That feeling in your stomach matched with unending thoughts on the situation

Alex-Snow · Answer

For me... I just know and it is usually self inflicted

Xawyx-2 · Answer

You were just cautious, maybe it wasn't a mistake.

ABC1x1x · Answer

You wake up 20 years later and realize the only thing you liked about your wife was he body. But she's 43 now and that all gone.

Redbeardviking · Answer

The size of the lesson you’ve learned because of it.

Iron_Man · Answer

if you don’t make a decision they’re gonna make it for you and you’re gonna lose out

Twalli · Answer

You will, but true happiness is not getting what you want. It's wanting what you've got.

Pterodon · Answer

That’s a Rush song. “If you choose not to decide  You still have made a choice”

7Phoenix7 · Answer

What happened?

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

What happened miss sims?

spartan55 · Answer

So you didn't follow my earlier advise? 😂😂😂

NathanDavis · Answer

better safe than sorry...

exitseven · Answer

Usually my wife or boss is yelling at me.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

Your too much of a goody goody

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

What happened? Are you okay?

Friendddd · Answer

If i fewl so bad

Anonymous · Answer

lol 😂 you were two timing?

Raydergman26 · Answer

I would tell someone

snermcger · Answer

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