Have you ever been in a toxic relationship, and what lessons did you take from it?

Question

Sometimes we don’t realize how toxic a relationship is until we’re out of it. And sometimes the lessons we learn stay with us longer than the relationship itself.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Yes I have been i learned a long time ago that there are many different types of love

And there are always going to be people that come and go in our lives

And that you have to be honest with yourself when this happens

And just because someone comes in to our lives and that beautiful intense sensual energy bond that you experience together doesn't mean that you are meant to be together

There is a reason why people come in to our lives and vice versa And it a beautiful thing when you can feel that sensual passion together as one it can even take your breath away

But you have to know the difference between energy and and a physical bond

You can have both but only one will last a life time the other one will take you down a different path

You can experience both at the same time but it takes both people to be on the same page knowing the deeper understanding of that moment in time and both becoming that lesson and bigger picture as one and having the insight and the wisdom to both be bigger than self for each other.
And at the sametime knowing no matter what knowing when it's time it's time to let go and both agreeing the time is right. Making that moment in time one of the best moments and learning experience in life and learn the deeper the deepest meanings of love and life

But if we can't be that person for each other it turns toxic and it changes who we are

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

My first relationship was especially toxic and nonsensical. I was basically a simp for that girl. I was pathetic as hell and it's one of the more embarrassing parts of my life. Every other relationship after that was decent. They were good girls, with a special shout-out to my second girlfriend, who was probably the most memorable one and one I would've wanted to marry.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The strongest lesson: have very strong boundaries regarding who gets your time and energy. Not everyone is worthy of it and if you see a red flag in the beginning just stop dating the person because it won’t get better- in fact it’ll only get worse and is likely just the beginning or even a test of what you’re willing to tolerate.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Yes.. a big thing I learned never date a momas boy.. worst partners ever!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, I've seen my fair share of toxic relationships, both personally and professionally. Those life battles taught me the importance of setting boundaries, recognizing red flags like lovebombing and ghosting, and valuing open communication. Each experience leaves you stronger and wiser, turning you into a relationship ninja! 🥋 Relationships are like mirrors; they reflect your growth, if only you dare to glance!

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, just got out of one, , I learned to never be with someone like That ever again

DishLady · Answer

I learned to gtf out of toxic relationships.

MrChinaski · Answer

Not really. I don't think that's mainly luck. I don't date, never have. So the people I love are people I already know I admire and respect. My first relationship went far too long... 3 years when the love ran out after 1 year... but I was young and it was never toxic and I learned a lot about myself.

dragoblack · Answer

Yep, many toxic friend relationships. Being used, borrowing money only to never reimburse me, lying while trying to cover up toxic behaviors, dude being a cult minded trumper, verbally abusive, sexist, ableist, transphobic, narcissistic, ecouraging others toxic behavior, petty... etc. i usually drop all contact and block them on social media.
I would be the same way with romantic relationships. Abusive behavior, objectification, toxic habits, pettiness, refusal to better herself, refusal to acknowledge her issues, cheating. There's plenty of reasons to just leave.
Don't be petty, don't cheat, just pack your stuff up and move it when she's not home, voice yourself, ending the relationship, and leave. If you voice before packing up your stuff, there's a likelihood she will destroy the things you care about, out of petty revenge... i have seen it happen to too many friends and acquaintances.

MemeSupreme · Answer

yeah, but i was usually the toxic one lol

i was disassociating a lot until like 20, so a lot of my issues i wasn't even able to process or be aware of them that well. i definitely shouldn't have been dating, but im better now

on the other end tho, i just learned about staying true to myself. like no amount of peer pressuring or feeling guilt can excuse letting someone cross a boundary

MikeTheBartender · Answer

2 years of hell living with an ex. It fucked me up but made my vetting process astronomically better.

sage2021 · Answer

Nope! My Spidey senses tell me to run away from toxic people. Run Forest run!!

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I have learned that mistakes has a price and i have learned that real love is very rare because everyone talks but only a few does what they are talking about and fulfill their promises...

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap. And never let someone put their hands on you. If they do, get out or kill them.

slatyb · Answer

Yes I have been. What did I learn? That I am worthy and deserve better.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, my relationship with my ex was pretty toxic but in a half way subtle sense.. We didn't argue a lot or anything except on politics.. But even that could have gotten kinda messy.. But the lesson I learned is that if you see clear redflags like still lamenting over exes, run far away.. Also to make sure the values are same or similar, because sheesh.. If not it's doomed from the start..

AgentG111 · Answer

Yes I have been. Learn more about the person before you commit to anything? Talk and ask questions!

Massageman · Answer

yes. Don't get into them. Learn warning signs. Trust your gut instinct.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Sometimes, we are the reasons the relationship is toxic, and we don't want to look in the mirror.

msc545 · Answer

I have been in such a relationship. The lesson I took from it is: never be in one again and never tolerate any of that BS again.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I learnt how to recognise it early on, allowing me to move on with someone more compatible.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I have and I didn't like it so I have chosen to not get into another toxic relationship.

loveguruclub · Answer

My lesson: peace is priceless. Healthy love shouldn't feel like constant emotional labor.

MasterKS · Answer

before getting in this trap i choose casual. enjoying it.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m not gonna lie but I’m not saying cause

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes and I know what to avoid now.

CelineFeline · Answer

I haven't luckily

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