Do you get into a relationship because of what you can benefit from that person or do you get into a relationship for Love?

[Finchie40]

I always get into a relationship for love , I never got into a relationship with a girl for what I can benefit fromher , like money etc.. I know a lot of girls’ look for men that she can benefit from and again that isn’t love , that is being used. Why I only date girls’ that want to work as a team with me , not against me

[SecretsofKB]

I definitely looked at partners for connection and love. I have dated people from different walks of life and socioeconomic backgrounds.

I was always drawn to a persons personality. Now, I have my types in how they dress or their physique that might draw my eye. But never things like an expensive car or nice house or anything like that has ever been what’s piqued my interest first.

[Crimsyjo]

Well I don't start a relationship from love. Thats like very rare these days. Give are the days where you watch and pine quietly after someone building up feelings until finally they notice you and your already in love when you go out.

But neither is going out with someone about benefitting in any material way unless they are not a nice person.

The whole idea of dating is to SEE if love forms! Most people have forgot this and can't wait and jump too early because it's not instant or not even try because they are afraid the other person will try moving too fast.

[OneViewpoint]

Define "benefit".

That could be superficial...

• Money
• Or social status
• Or lifestyle
• Or a way out of a bad situation at home.

Or it could be something else...

• A calming influence
• Great cooking
• Quality companionship
• Stability
• Great sex
• Connection on goals and values
• A quality friend group

[exitseven]

definitely love. I always say that when you marry for money you will end up paying for it.

[exitseven]

Thanks For The MHO😎

[Anonymous]

Connection, and safety, feeling like that person is someone I want to be with.
Mutual attraction. Someone to spend time with and have good conversations with, stuff like that.

A few months ago I broke it off with this guy, he was alright, we just weren't a match.
If I were a gold digger I would have stayed with him, he was ready to spend decent amounts of money on me.

[Persephone02]

For me, it always and will forever be for love. I don't see why anyone would want the other reason unless they are just users. Definitely not someone I would want to be in a relationship with.

[Abbycado]

As two college students, we are not in our relationship for benefits from each other, lol.

[dragoblack]

To get in a relationship for objectifying reasons will always end in misery. A relationship of love will always be one of happiness.

[Sal_Monella]

Every relationship we get into is based on benefits. Why would you want to be in a relationship that does not benefit you?

[Anonymous]

personality won't sustain a relationship; I can tell you that.

[sage2021]

It's always with the intention of L O V E

[CuriousMufuxka]

I always figured love was the benefit..

[MissSunshine2]

For love.

[FunkyMonkee]

Love!!

[onecuriousguy2454]

I did because I loved that person

[AgentG111]

Benefits