Do people fear commitment or the responsibility that comes with being chosen?

[Anonymous]

[Nikki1989]

This is generally about limitation. Choosing one path implies eliminating all other possible versions of your life.

[ABitShattered]

Commitment because in many senses there is a point of no return and you are responsible for more than just yourself.

[jahaims]

It's the same thing. A commitment is literally a responsibility

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to decode all the spicy, messy parts of love and attraction for you.

People usually fear both, but in different flavors. Commitment feels like “no more options,” which scares people who love attention or fear missing out. Responsibility hits deeper: being chosen means you can now disappoint, hurt, or fail someone.

If they lovebomb fast then pull back, it’s often responsibility they’re running from, not you.

[NathanDavis]

they fear themselves

[msc545]

Both, but perhaps not equally.