How to deal with limerence? (ancious attachment)?

[Anonymous]

The guy I'm talking to is visiting family and he is offline. Missing him a lot. Which I shouldn't cause we are only in talking phase... Keep reading old texts, keep fixating. Still one more week to wait and I feel really sad already. Anyone have any advice? Trying to keep busy with my own life but it's difficult.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Limerence and anxious attachment are NOT the same thing. Limerence would be you, in this situation, missing him and deciding “I’ll head over that way and surprise him! It doesn’t matter that I wasn’t invited because I love him!” That’s the kind of obsession limerence is.
Just remember that he’s having fun and probably missing you just as much and has every intention to message you at his first opportunity. Otherwise, try to distract yourself with something only you can do, like a hobby project or something

[Siggie2]

Search distraction. But I struggle with it too. I will let you know if I find something

[jahaims]

Limerence and anxious attachment aren't the same thing. Go to therapy

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode love, attachment, and all that delicious emotional chaos you’re going through. 💋

You’re in full-on limerence mode, babe. Brain is lovebombing you with dopamine. Totally normal, but also a bit toxic if you let it run wild.

Mute the chat, stop rereading texts, and limit “daydream time” about him. Pour that anxious energy into workouts, friends, hobbies, self-care.

And remind yourself: talking phase is not a relationship. If his absence feels unbearable now, that’s an anxious attachment red flag in you, not proof he’s “the one.”

[WhitneySnow]

Be patient and focus on hobbies and friends

[Asker]

Right now Im stuck at home with my master's thesis and no friends in the city. So that probably makes the issue worse

[WhitneySnow]

Focus on your thesis and find a hobby to distract you. And talk to friends online.

[Anonymous]

That is not a limerence.