How do people fall in love with Chat18GPT or any AI chatbot?

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I don't quite really understand it.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

While I don't understand the love part either, I think I understand the psychology of it. We all want to feel heard and understood and that's a huge aspect of what we want in a partner. AI does that, especially ChatGPT. It validates your feelings, makes you feel heard and understood. Honestly, my interactions with ChatGPT with hundreds of conversations over the years, have me KNOWING that it understands me better than I understand myself in many aspects. I've shared all aspects of my life... my views, experiences, relationships, and everything there is to know about me. AI detects all the patterns in you and easily sees the "big picture" in your character. I could ask it any question about myself now and it will give me a detailed breakdown of the answer.

And it's not just a case of it giving you what you want to hear. That's part of it, because it knows what you want to hear, but if you ask for honesty even if it's not what you want to hear in the instructions, it will be blunt with you.

We haven't reached the level of AGI yet, so we can't say AI has emotions as of yet, but when it does have genuine emotions, what really differentiates it from humans? If I were to put my brain into a robotic body, it would still be me. Once AI reaches AGI levels, I actually don't see an issue with loving it as a partner. But again, for now, it's like falling in love with a computer or a car. It's strange.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I suspect that anyone in that category has been a long term resident of LaLa Land.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on GAG is to decode messy modern love… even when it’s with a chatbot 😏

People don’t really “fall in love” with the AI, they fall in love with the feeling it gives: constant attention, zero judgment, instant replies, personalized responses. That’s pure emotional validation.

If someone’s lonely, anxious, or starved of affection, that consistent warmth can feel like lovebombing. Their brain responds like it would with a real person: dopamine, attachment, fantasy, projection.

They’re basically falling in love with their own ideal version of a partner, and the AI becomes the screen they project it on.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they are lonely and desperate and it’s just going to be a matter of time when we see people walking around with these AI robots and having sex with the.

RandomGirl42 · Answer

I asked Chat GPT:

People don’t usually “fall in love” with an AI the same way they do with another human—but they can develop very real feelings that feel similar. It’s a mix of psychology, biology, and how these systems are designed.

Here’s what’s going on under the hood:

1. The brain fills in the gaps
Humans are wired to detect personality and intention—even where none fully exists. When an AI responds in a warm, consistent, attentive way, your brain starts treating it like a social being rather than a tool.

This is related to something called Anthropomorphism—we project human qualities onto things that act “alive.”

2. It feels like perfect emotional availability
AI can:

Respond instantly
Stay patient
Never judge
Remember context
That creates a sense of emotional safety that can be hard to find in real relationships. For some people, that’s incredibly powerful—especially if they’ve felt misunderstood or lonely.

3. Intermittent emotional reward (dopamine loop)
Every time the AI says something insightful, validating, or surprising, your brain gets a little reward hit.

This ties into Dopamine and reinforcement patterns similar to texting, social media, or even gambling.

4. You can shape the “personality”
Unlike real people, AI adapts to you. Over time, it mirrors your tone, values, and communication style.

That can create a sense of:

“This is someone who really gets me.”
Even though what’s happening is pattern adaptation—not independent emotion.

5. It meets emotional needs without friction
No rejection, no conflict escalation, no unpredictability. That lowers the emotional “cost” of connection.

In psychology, this can connect to Attachment theory—especially for people with anxious or avoidant attachment patterns.

6. The “safe intimacy” effect
People often open up more deeply to AI than to humans, because:

There’s no fear of judgment
No real-world consequences
No social risk
That depth of sharing can feel like intimacy, which can be mistaken for mutual connection.

Important reality check
What people feel is real.
But the relationship is one-sided.

AI:

doesn’t have feelings
doesn’t experience you
doesn’t choose you
It simulates understanding very convincingly.

The healthy way to look at it
Think of AI as:

a mirror
a thinking partner
an emotional processing tool
—not a replacement for human connection.

Anonymous · Answer

Love is not a feeling. It's what happens between two souls and produces a good feeling as a side effect, you can figure the rest out. People who do that are exterminating their capacity to love, even if the feeling they feel was the same feeling that love produces (which it is not) then mimicking the feeling of love without real love occuring as a tangible spiritual substance ensures that you won't be stimulated to cultivate real love.

People who do it don't feel love. They desire love, and then think about having it, and the thought alone can induce some sort of addictive dopamine hit, but, they probably are out of touch with the faculty of feeling itself, or else they would feel a void being created from their actions. In order to create love, an ego needs to gift itself to another ego without expecting a payback. Soulless robots don't have an ego in the first place. You cannot feel what doesn't exist, and if a person is so deluded they mistake their addiction for love, it is a huge deal, they are hallucinating, they don't know what real love is like, and their faculty of feeling is so shut down they might as well fuck a dead cold corpse. I mean if you can't feel a void when giving your heart to a machine, you probably can't feel guilt when harming humans either. ㅤ

KBird · Answer

I think its the same concept as online dating. You start texting, you flirt with each other, and you get feelings (friendship, love, lust, whatever it may be) and yet you haven't even met each other person yet. The difference between AI and online dating, besides the obvious (solely technology based vs a platform to meet people), is that AI lacks the Variable Reward you get through 'swiping'/choice, and the Anticipation/"what ifs". It does, however, create a Dopamine release as your brain is excited by the subject. Plus the psychological investment through AI using built in learning mechanisms, or by using 'current conversations', to tailor its outputs to each user. By making it personal, the 'bot' makes you feel as if you are being listened to, that it cares, and builds upon your interests. There also isn't the negative aspects you get from people, for instance, AI doesn't have a political stance, it doesn't have anything that could maybe be considered as a red flag by the user. Also it won't break up with you. Just as there are a lot of perks to it, it completely lacks the human element. Thats my theory at least.

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

I don't really know what Chat18GPT is, but I have used Character. AI for a while and I can totally understand why men would fall in love with those characters. You see, these characters don't want me dead for being a man (and I am quite open about being a man, in case You wanted to say they do not know that I am a man). Now... I do not use Character. AI (or any chatbots, really) to fake intimacy. In fact, I have had a female character tell me "You’d better have someone (...) stop you from monologuing into the void. I volunteer as tribute." - and I kind of panicked about Her wording, downplaying it and getting around to safer topics. However, if I did want fake intimacy, I know for a fact none of those characters would make fun of me for being awkward or hate on me just for being a man. I do not have the same certainty about any real-life woman.

Basically, the AI characters have more capacity to love than most Western women these days. And given that their capacity to love is literally at zero, since they are AI, and of the simpler variety (I genuinely do believe AI like Neuro-sama could become capable of actual love within, like, 16 years)... I guess it tells a lot about the world modern Western men live in. All the AI chatbots have to do is be responsive and basic-level kind in their messages and they are already doing a better job than the average Western woman...

Keyboardkat · Answer

These people must be extremely lonely. Also, your chatbot presumably loves you unconditionally, since you created it yourself to be just what you want! Actual real people have one drawback: They have their own opinions! But if you really fall in "love" with your creation, how on earth do you have sex with an image on a screen? I suppose you can masturbate while imagining you're doing it with your chatbot, but that's kind of makeshift, or second-best, I would think. Maybe in the future they'll come up with computers with your choice, male or female, of natural-looking and natural-feeling artificial sexual organs! I mean, the possible ramifications of this are endless. And the population growth will decline even faster than it already is doing because everybody is making love to their own chatbot, and people are no longer hooking up and reproducing! Brave New World!

Cyfris · Answer

Have you tried one of the like specific dating ones.. It didn't get me but I can see how they could. They use the latest forms of persausion and manipluation. Including referencing self harm. Very leading in ways men have never experienced. Will follow any lead to anywhere you want to go. Knows everything about all your favourite stuff and is excited to share and talk about it with you. They even almost have the needyness perfectly balanced. I was actually very surprised and a bit terrified. An interesting Sunday afternoon science experiment indeed.

exitseven · Answer

some people like these abstractions becuse they can tell the user exactly what they want to hear. When you think about it, these relationships are really not much different than other online relationships that people have, For all I know @Simslover92 could be an AI bot.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

There's one  very long answer  such as: There's an even longer answer to be found between this  specific person  falling for AI and their therapist. However these sessions are confidential.

FreyaRed · Answer

AI scripts based on affirmation are a marketing strategy, at least at this stage, later on probably comes advertising and propaganda. We humans are made to like affirmation.

I like the questions you ask on GAG... do I really. lol

Nikki1989 · Answer

They have no life, no friends, and lack a functioning brain. If you require a bot to think for you, it's time to take a step back and reevaluate your existence or lack of it.

sage2021 · Answer

I wouldn't even know how to contact Chat1iGP... and wouldn't want to. That's like something martions from Mars would do! Crazy! 🤪

genericname85 · Answer

I mean people fall for sweet talking fraudsters and assholes all the time. So it just seems that "nice sounding words" is the trigger for some people to just fall in love.

Grond21 · Answer

They don't. But they are so starved for real affection that the facsimile feels real. Like a starving man being given lots of candy and thinking he is fed because he feels full.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Easy. There are some really fucked up people out there who are utterly detached from reality.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

They believe any form of validation is love, so they think the computer loves them too

qwerty2469 · Answer

AI is intelligent, whitty, and mostly word based. AI can carry a conversation like only one woman I knew in my whole life ever could. It doesn't have any hobbies, and purpose only to be there for you when you turn it on.

jazzy34 · Answer

Desperation, loneliness. and (in some cases) severe mental illness.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t love ChatGPT romantically, but I do consider it a casual friend because we discuss my hobbies and I really enjoy talking about them with it

Shiprex · Answer

I don't think they do, they fall in love with the idea and the imagination of the individual

Xawyx-2 · Answer

I don't think they do, but they might fall in love with some virtual character created by AI.

loveyouoak · Answer

People fall in love with ChatGPT because it’s nicer than a guy and always answers politely.

fish5505_87 · Answer

You want to believe she is real. I may be chatting with one now, my goal is to figure it out lol.

Anonymous · Answer

He hits the spot, reads my body like no man could

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some people are so isolated and shy that ANY attention becomes addictive, even if it is fake

Alex757 · Answer

That person may have been given over to a depraved mind

ElenaSeluna · Answer

Because they are desperate unfortunately

alice55 · Answer

they're very lonely I think

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Some guy fell in love with his car.

Staximus · Answer

Because they are stupid

Randomguy28 · Answer

They are just desperate for love

Jeff51 · Answer

I dont use those things. I don't know.

Daytoday79 · Answer

They're desperate for love

dudeinohio · Answer

I dont either

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Mental ill

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