Why are so many of us still unmarried and feeling alone?

[Blueoceanna]

If I were married right now, I would want to drown in the scent of my husband neck

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said and done your house is gone. In addition marriage is all about the three rings. An engagement ring, a wedding ring and suffering. Nowadays we live in a different world & the second you say I Do say Goodbye to half or all your shit when the divorce is finalized. Please note: I have never been married & don’t plan on getting married & from what I have seen the bond is a lot stronger nowadays without marriage.

As for your question I would be happy to simplify my answer a little more.

Why are so many of us still unmarried and feeling alone?

It’s simple & all I can say is that guys started using their brains when it comes to marriage or at least some of us have.

As for feeling alone some people enjoy being alone & some people don’t & if you are alone just remember that is a choice & if you don’t want to be alone go find someone.

[MidnightRivers]

hmm, I would say because of modern dating being riddled with un-realistic standards, and insecurity to comit, leaving 'options' open etc etc

[Blueoceanna]

I am a traditional but little

[Simslover92]

People don't want to commit anymore. They just want to play the field until they are 40 and then have the realization that they wasted so much time playing around when they could have been with someone special and they missed the opportunity to make it happen. Not to say that you still can't find your person after 40, but it's so much harder to find someone after that.

[FreyaRed]

I don't feel alone, neither I heard some complain of my friends who are unmarried that they feel alone.

Maybe you shouldn't avoid such bald assumption like "so many of us..." if you want to be credible.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to make love, dating, and all that messy heart stuff feel a little less confusing and a lot more fun 💋

You’re not alone at all. Many are unmarried because modern dating is full of ghosting, fear of commitment, unrealistic standards, and social media lovebombing illusions. Wanting to drown in your future husband’s neck scent is actually sweet and primal. You’re craving emotional safety and physical intimacy. That’s not desperation, that’s desire. Keep that softness, but guard your heart from red flags.

[Blueoceanna]

I wouldn't get intimate with a man before marriage , mr Aİ

[ohsheeT]

I just spent the last fast 4 years taking care of my mother she had dementia Alzheimer's and it was a chore it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do and I just haven't got myself all the way back yet I just about lost everything but thank God I didn't but right now I would love to be a relationship I don't care even what type of relationship somebody just to communicate with and be a friend to or with to feel things with to explore things I don't know but you are right I've never ever been lonely but there are moments in time where I feel that and I also feel that there are things happening in the world that you know I want to see what direction is going first but a good friend would be nice

[ohsheeT]

But if you know who you are and you know what you want life there's no reason to feel alone I feel alone maybe for other reasons than me actually being alone because I don't look at it like that I mean I am busy 24 hours a day but there's just things in life that I miss and I miss sharing that's that alone I'm talking about

[Finchie40]

Because most people in today’s generation , aren’t fond of marriage , there is so much negative talk about it , so a lot of people don’t want to experience that whatsoever, Statistics show divorce rates are higher than actual marriage rates these days. And most divorces are initiated by women that are going through menopause amongst other things as well. 2 people can fall madly in love with each other and then out of nowhere one of them changes their mind and ruins the relationship or marriage. I thought my ex and I would make it until the end until she decided to be selfish once the kids’ gotten older and decided she wanted to be single instead. I was married to her for 22 years until she decided she no longer wanted to be committed to me. So for me to ever consider marriage again , is going to take me quite sometime , only if I meet an amazing girl , would I even consider marriage again.

[Orion84]

I'm not married, because I no longer have any desire to be.

My last relationship pretty much soured me on the whole prospect, and I no longer have enough trust in a potential girlfriend to even consider the possibility.

I'd rather be single and happy than with another person that makes me miserable. I don't hate women, but I no longer have the desire to sift through the lousy ones, just for the possibility of finding a good one. It's not worth it.

[DonaldDarko]

Probably because people don't really think things through. If they did they'd realize our sexuality is the most primitive and gross thing about us. I don't mean the physical act of sex. Much worse is the evolved psychology of it.

[Blueoceanna]

Veryy righttt

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

God, don't ask such questions, you're unleashing the dark forces of g@g lol, as pointed out by the comments.

Well, married at 23 isn't standard where I live, so I'm not surprised you aren't, but then it's valid for where I live. I don't know how standard it is for your location.

[TonyMetal___86]

You're still very young and have so much time until marriage hehe, i'm 40+, divorced, 12 years alone and doesn't think that i'll ever fall love in love again or get married 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Blueoceanna]

Thank you 🙏

[TonyMetal___86]

You're welcome

[Agape93]

Because too many of you people don't know how to work a relationship.

[Blueoceanna]

Yeah…

[Anonymous]

"Us" being who? Women?

A lot of people today SHOULDN'T be married. They do not have the right mindset for it. So while they might not be fully satisfied. 1. It's questionable if that is even really possible for them. And 2. At least they're not ruining someone else's life being single.

by the way, Don't take this personal. I was just answering your question. Not saying this reflects you in any way.

[exitseven]

I know it seems hopeless and it really boils down to dumb, stupid luck. You just cannot give up.

[Blueoceanna]

Thank you 🙏🙂

[exitseven]

its all gonna work out.

[Blueoceanna]

You are right

[jahaims]

Immaturity is breed by poor cultural and societal values. This prevents most people from having a healthy relationship.

[Blueoceanna]

You are right

[Nikki1989]

That has nothing to do with my world. Everyone I know is in a relationship, mostly married.

[Nikki1989]

Read the anon trolling, and you will see why some people are not married.

[YourExLover69]

Due to hook up culture, no one wants commitment and ready to take responsibility.

I'm single as well and I prefer marriage over hook ups.

[Abbycado]

Perhaps just not meeting the right person yet.

[Mike_Hum]

You tell me. Why are you alone?

[Blueoceanna]

Because men want is sex. Not all of them, but the ones I have encountered wanted it... my heart is broken.

[Mike_Hum]

Where are you looking?

[Caurav1997]

We're not avoiding marriage
We're avoiding divorce...

[Anonymous]

I lack luck in love.

[Blueoceanna]

Same, There no one who wants to get married... I just want someone who will be a father and a husband I have no other expectations

[Opinion Owner]

For me it's like this:
Girls I like - Usually don't like me back.
Girls who like me - Are usually not my type.

[Anonymous]

Modern feminism.