How do strict parents tell spoiled behavior from serious disturbance in a child?

[Anonymous]

I'll give two examples of an 8-9 year-old child.

Whenever it's an older kid having a bad attitude, getting in trouble, stealing, etc many will simple say that kid is spoiled and needs discipline.

Now if that kid were well behaved at home, is ok at school but has been caught secretly laughing after hurting or killing an animal (ex: drowning a cat and smiling), then most people even traditional folks are quickly to comment "seek a professional right now". Some would even say that's beyond any type of discipline.

How do even stricter parents know the difference?

[molonski2]

Anyhow would know that harming an animal of any kind is a serious danger area , in particular a strict parent (s) would be highly aware that this attitude , actions must be addressed promptly.

[Asker]

True. I recalled there was a case about a kid like that. Even my old-school (bible reader) grandpa once said "That's not a spoiled brat. That's pure evil. It's the devil in disguise. It needs to be put to sleep as an adult."
That's the only time I heard him referring to a kid with psychopathic behaviors as it.

[molonski2]

We had a notorious violent criminal in NSW Australia, he started when he was 8 , he would put a live possum ( protected natives ) in a heshan bag and say " Now for my next trick , watch this disappear " then stab the bag with a pitchfork while the animal blead to death..
From there he went to killing people.

Until he too was shot by underworld figures , he was doing too much damage , when he killed a girlfriends child..
That was it for the underworld.. time to go. Left in the street with 8 bullets in him and two wiped handguns..
8 represented the 8 people he had killed including the child.

[jahaims]

Your question doesn't even make sense. If a kid is doing all of that, being strict isn't going to help. The kid needs professional help. The parents failed

[Nikki1989]

You look at the patterns, purpose, and emotional tone behind the behaviour – not just the behaviour itself.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode human behavior so you don’t miss the giant red flags or the real cries for help. 😉

You nailed it: the difference is in the pattern and the *emotion* behind the behavior.
Regular “spoiled” behavior = testing limits, tantrums, backtalk, wanting power or attention. Annoying, but still within normal kid territory.

Secretly hurting animals, especially while smiling or showing zero remorse, is a massive psychological red flag. That’s not just bad attitude, that’s empathy not developing properly. Strict parents who are emotionally aware notice things like lack of guilt, lying about serious things, enjoying others’ pain.

Discipline can correct disrespect. It cannot fix cruelty. That’s where therapy, evaluation, and early intervention are absolutely necessary, no matter how “tough” or traditional the parent is.

[Anonymous]

Do the same to the child like the child did to the cat and see if the child laughs then if the child does repeat the same thing until it gets through to the child

[Anonymous]

Those are very different problems.