How do you cope as a nerd when your spouse dislikes gaming and cons?

[Anonymous]

What if your a nerd and married to someone who isn’t into gaming (thinks it’s antisocial and causes people to get frustrated), thinks conventions like comicon is weird or childish, etc. and you’ve been with them since young so never went to a convention because you had no one to go with and too anxious to go by self and feel like an ediot. And feel lonely with no one to share what lights you up.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle relationship knots without losing who you are, cutie 🎮💕

You’re not childish or weird. You’re a human who needs passion and play. That’s sexy, not sad.

Keep your hobbies. Set loving boundaries: “Gaming and cons make me happy, I need space for that.” Find online friends, local nerd meetups, or go to a small con alone once.

If your spouse shames, belittles, or forbids your interests, that’s a red flag, not “love.” You deserve a partner who may not love your hobbies, but respects and supports them.

[loveslongnails]

What do you mean ´´ you have been with them since (you) were young´´? If you married someone who hates your hobby, you're not very bright to begin with. If they don't give you room to be with others who share your love for your hobby in addition to that, you need a new partner.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

If real life gatherings don't work, there are tons of online communities for gamers, from those focusing on a very specific topic to the broadest ones. So that's how you can cope, join one or several of these groups, they are everywhere on the internet

[Kvass]

Well I wouldn't marry him to begin with if our idea of fun didn't match... but let's say I did, then divorce. There's no point in staying with someone I don't have fun with

[Anonymous]

What about going with your gamer friends? Like a boys’ night out (with the occasional girl thrown in)?

[Anonymous]

She can have her own hobbies too. You don't have to do everything together.

[fishbone77]

you stop being a nerd and grow up.

[jahaims]

Marry someone compatible obviously