My boyfriend told me he thinks my best friend is "hot." ?

[MissAimeenaLee]

This really got me heated. Not the fact that he thinks she's attractive, but the fact that he told me. I never brag to him about attractive guys I see, so it's not like I'm being hypocritical. I'll admit though, it does bother me that he's thinking of my friends like this. It also doesn't help that he used to like her before me and him started dating, and he never got a chance with her. The only reason I went out with him was because he "confessed" his love to me and being the hopeless romantic that I am I accepted his offer. I was also very naive at the time and I actually believed what we had was love. Now I am reconsidering ever having a future with him. And it doesn't help that he is into the nerdy,goth,scene,alternative,metal head look that my friend has got and I just don't and never will. I mean sure, I'm nerdy but I dress in Forever 21. I have no problems with people that prefer that style might I add. They are beautiful but it is just is not for me.

We've been dating for almost 2 years.

Help me. Please.

[Phoenix1991]

That would bother anyone , so your not wrong. Its okay to say your friends are beautiful/pretty but to say they are cute/hot/attractive insinuate that he finds them attractive and probably thought about being with one or them.

being two different people doesn't mean a relationship can't work or anything, its only defined by the others respect and manners for the other being different.

Personally I would tell him that wasn't okay to say because that bothered you. Don't think your not attractive or anything, don't doubt yourself or belittle yourself because of this. After all he did develop feelings for you.

Try talking it over with him.

[shacodraco]

normally id say its nothing to worry about but you said he wanted your friend before you and never got a chance with her. you're not gonna want to hear this but chances are good that he settled for you to make her jealous. so there might be a chance that he would leave you for her if he knew he could get her. you said you've been with him for 2 years and I don't know all the little details so its your call still lol

[MissAimeenaLee]

Yeah that's what I think too. I know I'm not ugly and I know that I can do better than him. I'm breaking it off with him tonight because, with me, it's all or nothing. Thank you everyone for your feedback. :)

[shacodraco]

no problem, but he might still have feelings for you since its been 2 years. I think you should just become more distant with him and see how he reacts. if he asks to be with you more then he legitimately likes you. if not...then you know what to do :)

[MissAimeenaLee]

Thank you. :)

[THAT-1-guy]

he is just stating (if he said I would smash her then that might be a prob) I think your over thinking it

[cbirnell]

This is where you say, "Yeah, so is your brother."