Guys, when you tell a girl how much you love her during sex - how true is it usually?

[MissConfused93]

My boyfriend always goes "I love you so much."... Etc. he tells me he loves me outside of the bedroom too, but it sounds so much more genuine when he's inside me an says it. my friends tell me I should be worried. are they right?

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[JackWSmith]

Your friends have ridiculous ideas about men. There is a connection between sex and love. There doesn't always have to be. Men can enjoy sex without love--I think women can too--but it's so much better with love involved. Men show affection through touch and we value affection expressed through touch more than affection expressed in words. A touch on the shoulder means a lot more than "love you'' at the end of a phone conversation. Sex is the height of physical affection and when it's part of a loving relationship, it's incredibly significant. If he loves you, sex will make those feelings more intense and immediate, and it makes sense that he would voice them.

If a man is going to lie to you, he's going to do it when you're not having sex with him. A man who is having sex with you has no reason to lie to you. A man who is not having sex with you has every reason to lie to you. Also, his reasoning goes out the window during sex. He is living in the moment. He's not thinking about tomorrow or yesterday. He's not planting seeds or following some sort of strategy. A man who wants sex is cunning. A man who is having sex is pretty simple. It's probably the most genuine expression of love you'll ever hear, because there's no thinking involved in it. He's just saying what comes to mind.

[kittykett]

great answer!

[MrOracle]

1) Stop overthinking everything. For the most part, guys mean what they say and say what they mean. Instead of hyper-analyzing everything your Boyfriend says, start taking what he says at face value, because that's what HE meant.

2) His ACTIONS (outside the bedroom) should tell you if he's telling the truth or not. That's what you need to pay attention to.

[udolipixie]

1. Guys, when you tell a girl how much you love her during sex - how true is it usually? Studies show guys fall in & out of love visually. Meaning they fall in love faster due to the woman's physical appearance and fall out of love faster when aging starts. In fact studies they're also quicker to say "I love you" as by-product of them equating love with sexual desire.

So while it may be true don't put much stock in the depth, consistency, of strength of his "love".

2. my friends tell me I should be worried. are they right?

Your friends are probably suggesting that if he only says I love you during sex he's either lying or emotionally stunted.

* A man having sex with you does have a reason to lie to you- to continue having sex with you. Plenty of women get cheated on/lied to while continuing to have sex with the guy.

[KERMlT]

If he tells you outside the bedroom then I think you are fine. Inside the bedroom might be a different story. Hormones with sex makes people do strange things and some people might blurt that out inadvertently.

[20Questions]

I think it's only true depending on how much he means it other times. For the most part sex doesn't enhance our love for her. In my opinion

[ButterflyXkisses]

What exactly are you supposed to be worried about?

[CestLolaVie]

Didn't get it either..

[MissConfused93]

I have no clue. That he's lying, I suppose.

[ButterflyXkisses]

Well not if he's saying it at other times too.

[AlexCab]

everything is more intense when having sex :)