How to stop falling in love with every guy I meet?

[Anonymous]

i can't help it, something about the way hell look at me and I won't be able to stop thinking about him for a week, if he's nice, ill probably go crazy and start thinking names for our kids and ill be sure he's the one I want to marry,

but then I get bored or hurt and I end up finding someone better, which wouldn't be too long, the whole cycle starts, hell look at me, I realize he's nice, we would talk etc etc

Honestly it kinda gives me a headache now and I'm sick and tired of this, anything I can do to stop it?

[journeyman1126]

Just understand you're responsible for emotions, they all start with thoughts. And you can debate them.

I was wild for a while, and the rush of the new thing would always get me into crazy situations. Girls, alcohol, other things... I won't bore you saying just be a good girl. But I can tell you the high that you get from a long, slow buildup is better.

Try to go without for a while. It's summer so that's going to be hard, but try a week at first. When you see a hot guy, talk yourself out of flirting with him. If you don't talk to them, you can't become all gaga over them. You won't end up holding something flimsy or shabby together with physical intimacy. You may not feel that rush some girls get when a man is going crazy over them, but you can get into something else.

Sounds lame to say find a hobby, but that worked for a friend of mine, she started knitting and it took her mind off of other things. She was actually addicted to men. If you are artistic I highly recommend a drawing class or try latex painting, I'm a lousy artist and even I can make cool pieces with the right brush, canvas and paint.

[franceto]

Just find a bad thing about him and focus on it. That will keep you from going crazy over him. But you don't do it to much, cause then you might miss a chance to find your true love.

The following sentence might scar you for life!

If you can't find anything, try his eyebrows, because eyebrows are a big turn off for most people.

[saelym]

You need to get your feet back on the ground.

Let's not mistake momentary infatuation with love. You need to have the self control to tell yourself, "Get a grip, this is ridiculous. I've known him for a week, why would I marry him now?"

It's about self control. Nobody can really tell you how to do it because it's you in charge of yourself. My best advice - coming from someone who is boy crazy, too - is to focus on the fun, not the long-term seriousness.

A little reality check to give yourself: You know what you're like, so what makes you so sure that he's the one you'll be with long enough to marry when you know you're going to be bored soon and move on to someone else anyway?

Know yourself and work accordingly. Your breezy, fast-paced attitude will help you when you get your heart broken hard because you'll be able to tell yourself with total confidence that you've gotten over guys before and there will be another one just as good or better in no time flat.

[Anonymous]

You are boy crazy and you just gotta work on yourself and not over anazlize or think abut these boys much...us your time and mind on something worth it.