Why does almost every guy I talk to fall in love with me?

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I know the title might sound like I’m full of myself, but that’s not the case. I’ve had several male friends throughout my life, and while I don’t specifically seek them out, I enjoy their company. Things usually start well, but before long, they start treating me differently—giving compliments, gifts, and eventually confessing feelings like “you’re so different” or “you make me feel valued.” It’s exhausting. I genuinely want to make people happy, but it seems like my efforts come off as flirting, even though that’s not my intention. I’ve tried to tone it down, but nothing changes. I’m tired of being seen as someone’s manic pixie dream girl or savior. It’s frustrating because I have no interest in most of these men, and it’s never the ones I’m actually interested in. I just want genuine friendships without this added pressure.

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

So normally I would think a woman like you is just trying to prop herself up and let the world know that guys are so into her, because most chicks do that stuff under the guise of acting like it bothers them when they are actually low key bragging, even if they're not into those guys. Women just like letting people know there are dudes who want them so bad. But I think I know your situation:

You are probably the kind of woman who is very good with male company and is genuinely friendly. And unlike most women, you also probably respect men for who they are and are not seeking power over them, have any intentions to manipulate them, and are not trying to be sexually superior to them. When guys meet women like you it's pretty hard not to be attracted, so I can understand them on that front.

I have some female friends who are just like you and talk about the same problem. Best thing you can really do is just keep emphasizing that you like them as friends, and if they can't accept it then you gotta cut them off. But be aware that your respectful and respectable company and personality will continue to draw men because most women don't behave with that kind of grace.

DannyUk2017 · Accepted Answer

Instead of being Happy that every man falls for you, you coming on here and moaning about it... Either you're looking for Validation, either is just for Sex, either you don't know how to read body language...🤦‍♂️🤔

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

a lot of girls maybe only show friendship and attention to guys they find attractive. So they already think there's a level there. And if - because of your good heart amd friendliness - these men are less attractive men who struggle to get any interest from women you have given them hope. You say the guys you want are not the ones saying what you want to hear. So I'm guessing men you truly find attractive are men who do have lots of options so they don't fall for any girl that is nice to them...

Maybe. I don't know you so I'm just guessing from an outsider perspective.

Sunnysunny123 · Accepted Answer

Maybe it's the way you are around them and the way you talk to them, not everyone has the same perception of friendship for example my ex was very touchy with every girl he didn't think nothing of it (as he said) but maybe someone else is thinking different.

HawkPerception · Answer

Well to be honest, if you're physically attractive to them and you have a nice personality (which doesn't seem to be the case in this post), then you're definitely going to have men interested in you, even if "they're not the ones you're interested in".

The reason I say you're not as kind as you make yourself out to be, is because you find it tiring to receive attention from guys, when if you're not interested in them, all you have to do is politely say so. You're probably fake with people to come across a certain way and have a certain reputation that you want to upkeep.

Serkee · Answer

If guys say things like "you make me feel valued" to you, well, there's your answer. That's something men hardly ever experience. Men are shown appreciation and receive compliments so rarely that just one genuine compliment or heartfelt "thank you" will stay in our heads for years, and just thinking about it can make our day. If you really do make those guys feel that way then it's no wonder they fall in love with you.

V_Injector · Answer

Uh huh... probably because they want to fuck. How many men got to fuck and got bored of you as quickly as you get bored of these other men trying to appeal to you, to also get to fuck?

Have you considered why anyone would want to be your genuine friend? Maybe fucking is all you have to offer...

What do you do, hobbies, job, talents? Or you're just a not fat woman that looks like she took a bath?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's because you're being authentic. You aren't trying to impress anyone, so you're being more truthful to the person you really are. Men find that attractive.

I can safely say that there are very few things less attractive than inauthenticity.

DishLady · Answer

Because you’re THAT fucking amazing….  Or… you are full of yourself and just think a guy is falling in love with you every time one looks your way.

Den1971 · Answer

Maybe they're not in love with you and damn sure not every guy maybe they like parts of you like maybe you have an awesome personality or maybe you have a sexy body or maybe they do fall in love with you maybe you're a complete package put a picture of yourself up there so we can see

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know if this a troll post. But from my experience having a close friendship with guys is a big NO NO! They get the wrong idea and expect more then get mad when told no. Pursuing friendships with men is pointless because we end up having to cut them off.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Oh my,  people need HELP , men are people, the  Beatles  said it many times already. If you help people genuinely, they will get closer to you,  it is inevitable .

Nik1hil · Answer

HAHA!.. You are hottie.. hawty.. Talk to me.. Torment me. I dare you...  I will always respond. But not fall in love, because I am a million miles away. And usually stay in STATE of POST NUT CLARITY.

avery58 · Answer

That happens to everyone. Like other answers have said, most guys won't bother to be your friend if they don't like you.

Billlewis · Answer

Because you're apparently very attractive, and have a very appealing personality.

luvstoned4him · Answer

That's not bad if you're looking for a partner  Now my issue is why every guy I only see as a friend falls in love with me? ... 😔

Datboi65 · Answer

I would believe that big foot was spotted riding a unicorn before I believe that lie. Go outside and touch some grass.

spartan55 · Answer

No guy wants to be your friend. I really like all of these guys are 'in love with you', sounds more like infatuation.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Be blunt with them. They probs won't get it or accept it but that's on them. Shut that shit down at first display.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Explain to your male friends you just want to remain friends with them and set them straight on the issues.

katiesmuff · Answer

I guess you are just one of those girls who at first glance the guys think they must have !

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Stop being friendly with ugly dudes.. there you go, problem solved lol.

EmmaMary · Answer

I'm more than sure you've asked this question several times before.

LiamJHayden · Answer

You just attract guys who are inclined towards relationships rather than flings. That is not necessarily a bad thing, but I understand your thoughts on it.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

You can talk to me. I won't fall in love with you.

Anonymous · Answer

I get it. That is annoying. I don't know why it happens but it’s happened a couple times to me too.

Anonymous · Answer

Either you are amazing or you are just being delusional.

Anonymous · Answer

If that's your picture I couldn't fall in love with you. I need at least a seven to fall in love.

dudegreat91 · Answer

Try me, I would just do slam bam thank you ma'am, just the way you like it ;)

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I seriously doubt that. Just because someone is giving you a compliment doesn’t mean they’re in love with you. Give me a break.

Enginn · Answer

Because you look hot. They want to have sex with you

Anonymous · Answer

I can't imagine every guy falling in love with a 35 year old woman.

Joshgag2000 · Answer

I highly doubt they all fall in love with you

MyBrainsInsaneReign · Answer

Maybe you're just so hot that they can't help it.

MikkiM · Answer

You have to get married your 35

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

You're probably a lady lots of lads desire.

samantha_17777 · Answer

Maybe because you're beautiful

Ironco · Answer

Oh, boo fucking who

elaphe · Answer

You must be charismatic.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Shitelationship

CubaPirate · Answer

Probably because you're hot

Anonymous · Answer

You're getting old Stan.😆

Anonymous · Answer

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