My boyfriend is acting cold towards me does that means he wants to break up?

[Anonymous]

He has a lot of things going on in his life with his family with his mom being sick and after this happened he acts like he is not interested in the relationship any longer he acting on way that makes me think that he doesn't have the guts to break up and he is just waiting for me to make that decision. I spoke to him about it and asked him if he wanted to end up the relationship and he said just to give him time but since we talked about it he doesn't call me sweet names like he used to before neither tell me "good night" or good morning" like he used to do it and unless I text him he won't talk to me he replies to my texts but with short answers not vet emphatic so at this point I'm confused... should I give him space and let him look for me, should I end up the relationship what should I do?

[NoOneListens21]

I know it must be difficult for you as well. I can't give you the answer of how long is enough because I suppose it depends on your breaking point. You have choices as well. You can either stick it out and stay with him until things get better.

You can take a break or break up. It doesn't seem right to leave someone going through something like that I know but if things don't improve or get worse what else can you do when he shuts you out.

I'm unsure of how long you've been waiting. Personally it's hard for mi to just sit back and watch people I love go through something alone which it is damn near impossible for mi to do so being shut out like that is awfully painful but then again you might feel useless when you can't do much except be there when they need to talk.

He needs space. Are you able to provide him with that request? Some are some aren't. Which one are you? I'm not one to do so for very long when shut out completely.

I told them if they wanted mi for anything that they were free to call or whatever anytime and should never hesitate because in truth I still love them and unsure if they feel the same. I couldn't stand there and not know anything at all or how they were doing.

Everything seemed to be changing and falling apart but I'm here if they need mi. I suppose it's up to you if you think you can go through with just waiting.

[NoOneListens21]

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[NoOneListens21]

Honestly there are only but so many things you can do. It's your choice. It's not easy for anyone. especially for him. I'd try to talk to him about it to see what he wants. It's really hard to give the person you love space or not being able to be there for them in their time of need. People act differently in certain circumstances. He probably just needs time alone and some space. If I can't be there for the one I love and I'm kept in the dark as well as them being distant all I could do is wait til they wanted to talk again. it's not easy at all. More than likely it wouldn't work out if it took a turn for the worse or if he doesn't want to try anymore. It's understandable, it's just a personal choice I suppose.

[Asker]

I feel like an elastic band that from stretching so much lost its elasticity and its about to break, I been tolerant and patience since he says he prefers to be alone when he has problems and every time I try to talk to him he just tells me he just needs some time. I'm confused, how long should I wait in this kind of circustamce, should I just give it up or just give him time to see if I notice a "change" I really love him but this affecting me and I feel like its totally unfair for me.

[hanbanan]

Sorry for such a late response but what ended up happening? I'm in a similar situation with my boyfriend now and I'm unsure of how to proceed.

[Moloch]

He's stressed, leave him alone. It has nothing to do with you.