I've been single for almost 4 years now, and have only ever been in one relationship. I've tried to get back in the dating scene, but I just can't find a guy who's interested in me for being me, not just because I have big breasts and a "nice @$$." I know it's gonna be hard to find the type of guy I want since I'm overweight, hence why I'm losing weight (well, I'm mainly losing weight for my health. To me, attractiveness is just a bonus that comes with it), but sometimes I can't help feeling like even if I was at a healthier weight I would still have trouble with dating and guys.
I've had some potential relationships happen since my last one ended, but they never ended up happening for one reason or another. I've decided to just focus on my studies and my friends, and if/whenever I'm meant to be with a guy, it will happen on its own. Unfortunately, as soon as I get myself in that mindset (what with school starting again and all), I start college and see couples EVERYWHERE. Then I feel lonely and depressed, and I don't know what to do about it. I don't want to be sad, but my usual tricks to make me happy aren't working this time around. I tell myself to "get out there" and find someone, but whenever I do, I always get rejected or friend-zoned. Whenever I decide to just wait for a guy to make a move instead of me, I always get caught up in lies and games I don't want to play.
Any advice would be much appreciated. I'm out of tricks, both for the dating arena and my depression. I know I'm young and still have time, but I don't like and don't want to feel this way. Help, please?
I've had some potential relationships happen since my last one ended, but they never ended up happening for one reason or another. I've decided to just focus on my studies and my friends, and if/whenever I'm meant to be with a guy, it will happen on its own. Unfortunately, as soon as I get myself in that mindset (what with school starting again and all), I start college and see couples EVERYWHERE. Then I feel lonely and depressed, and I don't know what to do about it. I don't want to be sad, but my usual tricks to make me happy aren't working this time around. I tell myself to "get out there" and find someone, but whenever I do, I always get rejected or friend-zoned. Whenever I decide to just wait for a guy to make a move instead of me, I always get caught up in lies and games I don't want to play.
Any advice would be much appreciated. I'm out of tricks, both for the dating arena and my depression. I know I'm young and still have time, but I don't like and don't want to feel this way. Help, please?
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