My boyfriend forgot about our three year anniversary.

[Aidriana]

Today was my our three year, THREE YEAR anniversary and my boyfriend forgot. He called me today, late as usual, and was mad at me for "telling what to do" I recently found out that he has been lying to me about smoking for the past three months. He told me he quit really he didn't. I didn't even tell him what to do, I just said that I don't like smoking. That's it, nothing else. But he freaked out and said I can't tell him what to do, and he won't listen anyways. I was supposed to see him today, because it is our three year. We have final exams right now, so today was going to be the only day that I see him until next week. But nope, he forgot. How could he forget our three year anniversary? He gets p*ssed at me because I care about him, his future and his well being. For example, I don't think that he should smoke , I don't think he should smoke weed everyday, and I think he should stay in school. So he gets angry at me for caring about him, so do I just not care about him? How could he forget our three years!? He isn't stressed about smoking because he doesn't want to quit, he isn't stressed about school either because he hates school. He only has one class and is to lazy to go. I didn't choose him this way. He wasn't like this at all before.

[marley86]

He is trying to rebel; my last boyfriend did the same thing. The more you tell him not to do something, the more he is going to want to do it, and he might even do it to prove a point. He probably feels like you are demanding too much from him, and he is reaching a point where he just doesn't care anymore. So, he forgets your anniversary, because he has stopped trying to please you so much. If I was you, I would just end it...the time has come. The only way he is going to be cool around you again is if you stop yelling at him about school, smoking, etc. but these are obviously things that are going to continue to bother you. My boyfriend brokeup with me this valentine's day, because he saw it as the day he was finally going to "take a stand". He was always super late to hangout with me and never made the time for me. I was letting him have it on valentine's day, and he had a few drinks, and just broke it off. He apologized later, and we tried to make it work again, and I told him I would try to be more understanding about the time thing. But, the truth is: I really should of been mad about it. I hated pretending that I had to be cool with the fact that he was running over two hours late-screw that. Break-up with him, and just maybe he will realize how great he had it the whole time. Yelling is going to do nothing, you have to take action.

[gonaners16]

Best it.

[Anonymous]

Well obviously he likes weeds more than school. As you know, people said that weeds can make you forgot stuff and maybe he is a forgetfull kinda person. With the stress that might be going on in his life etc. he forgot about the anniv. Just show him that you care, by now he knows that you dislike him smoking but you should explain why you said that. Like, I care about you and about your health that's y but I won't touch the subject again. I hope you come to a realization where you need to stop smoking and shift your focus into something else like school. About the anniv. stuff, did you tell him happy anniv. and all that? Maybe you should tell him about it and how you feel (don't snap out or mad just ask him why he forgot etc.) Tell him about your expectations as well.

[obligations]

Ok its like this.

Tell him how you feel...if he doesn't give a sh*t or gets defensive or anything that doesn't solve the problem...

then you either accept what's happening or you get rid of him.

Simple.

No use talking about it with him more than once.

[Anonymous]

doesn't sound like you are too happy with him anymore...

i don't want you to take this the wrong way, but you are 16 years old and have been in a relationship for 3 years? that's crazy.

you should not be worrying about stuff like this at your age...have some fun already.

[Whoknows87]

lol...some people worry about stupid things. Maybe he just forgot. Don't sweat the trivial things...

[coolguy93939]

hmmmmyup

that sounds like a pothead to me