Sadly I think its very common. My wife for instance forgot my Birthday and once folks in my family chat send me greetings, she baked a cake :D
For me it isn't a big thing the first or second time, but if it becomes a patern I would just put it into their phone :)
If its important for you, then he should make the effort to at least put it into his calendar on the phone to be reminded. When you love and care for someone, you do take the smal actions to satisfy them, not ignore it.
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He did not forget. Since he considers bdays as useless, he did not bother to note it down at all. If he is not excited about his bday itself, I'm sure he is not going to give much importance to other people's bdays.
Might be you can change it by starting to celebrate his bdays and let him know how fun it can be
"If someone is important to me I'd know every small detail about them"
Wrong. Sorry, it doesn't work that way.
Memory is not love-contingent. Some people really don't remember dates.
If he really, really cared, and wanted to make you happy, and cared about birthdays, he could write it down. But not doing that doesn't mean he doesn't care about you at all.
Probably just cut him some slack.
this is clearly important to you and the fact that he isn't putting in an effort to make you feel special when your birthday comes around is just not a good partner.
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Does he show you love in other ways?
Both my wife and I grew up not celebrating birthdays much so while we know the month we don't always remember the day because it isn't that important to us
I feel the same about my birthday until i reach age 50 just to celebrate life. I find it as an achievement to be alive every 20 years…. Im probably weird now but thats how I feel about it.
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If he said it saying he dont even celabtsit his own it makes sense its not somthing he feels is important now u get to decide if thats somthing u are happy with in a partner
Great choice, your boyfriend is a jackass. Start blowing off things that are important to him and see what his dumb ass does.
Don't hold that against him .
Usually when a person forgets it means they r highly stressed out
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They have short term memory lossMy boyfriend has always forgotten mine.. I never mention it on my birthday because i know he intentionally forgets it
Some people are good with remembering, some are not. You are expecting him to be good at something that he is not good at. If that is a deal breaker, move on.
After 10 years together, my fiance forgot my b-day!!
Maybe he’s not the one for you unfortunately 😞
That's... not good. If it's serious... I wouldn't forget that. Hell, I even remember the bdays of people I'm not especially close with, and I've NEVER forgotten the bday of an s/o.
It’s not the worst thing. Just put in his phone or on a calendar so he can remember
That would bother me
That’s really awful 😩
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very disappointing but they forget anyway
And you do you remember his birthday?
So, it's a birthday. Whoopty doo.
Some boyfriend you have here.
Unforgivable
He is right
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