Questions: Relationships

My partner would say things like "you can come if your heart desires/you're more than welcome to join us if you're able to" to me the way they say things like that makes me think they don't want me to come over

Let me be clear, I was in the wrong for being so needy and anxious last week (like called every day at least twice) and so with his change at work this week and supervisor being on duty, he has a lot going on. So when I asked if HE wanted space until after his "possible promotion" this weekend, he responded with "if you think that will help you, then sure. if not just let me know because I am down with whatever works best for you!"

I am much better this week, I was asking for HIM. So how would you respond? React?

Both involved a cruel person stealing someone's market value. Men and women are obviously valued differently. When it comes to love and relationships or marriage, what's worse?

- A man that promises the world and purposely wastes the woman's time and years. Then when she gets to a certain age, she gets ditched for someone younger. Not only she doesn't get those years back but she's depressed about possibly not being able to have kids anymore. The guy destroyed her years and her motherhood. We are afterall valued for our youth and fertility. Men don't care too much about our careers.

- A golddigger makes it harder for the rest of us to find a good family-oriented man. She uses him with charm but somehow he doesn't realize what she really is like. She got what she wanted and then wants to ditch him for no reason (just that she got bored, that's it), just for monetary incentive. She gets half of what poor man's hard work, destroying his market value he worked hard for.

I really sympathize with both cases. No one deserves getting their market value destroyed by cruel narcissists. Though personally I think the first case is worse. Money can eventually be earned back even if it takes years or longer. However, once we can't have babies anymore, that's not ever gained back, literally never. If our motherhood is taken away, it's forever gone. Money isn't forever gone.