Polls: Relationships

I proposed to my now-wife on Friday, March 10, 2023 around 6:30 pm in the Bonefish Grill in Gainesville, Florida. Just like in the movies from the 1930's and 1940's, I got down on one knee the middle of that very crowded restaurant, make a few very brief comments, and then asked. . . while the restaurant manager (who knew my plan in advance) video'ed the event. I have no idea what I would have done if she had said "no," and it was my good fortune that she agreed to become Ms. OlderAndWiser.

Have you ever proposed and been rejected, or received a proposal and rejected it? Did the rejection ultimately get reversed, and the proposal was accepted?

Looking back on that experience, do you think the rejection was the right response? If so, why? Do you look back with regret and wish it had not ended with rejection?

I want to get feedback on my partner:

- She’s not keen on me seeing friends, for my safety and would rather I met them with her. She also uses the find my iPhone feature with me.
- She messages me and phones various times per day, and gets frustrated if I don’t reply quickly, she says it’s to check I’m ok,
- She tracks my spending on her, to check we’re in budget. Even if I a buy a coffee she’s brings it up and asks why I bought it.
- She’s says if I don’t spend $$ on her birthday present I don’t love her. Also said her birthday needs to be “perfect” with hundreds of balloons etc and fancy cake.
- She doesn’t like me having a female friend at work, has told me to stop going to lunch with her. Said it’s to ensure I don’t “cheat”. She messaged my friend at work on Facebook to ask about me.
- My partner doesn’t like me following other girls on social media even friends.
- She told me I can’t have anyone better than her.

Is she a good partner? I’m really conflicted as this is my first relationship. My female friend said there is red flags everywhere, is she right?

I guess people on Fox think this is cringe?

and guys would you ever go shopping with your partner?

I would suggest that it is. Years ago, Before i met my wife, I believe i was 26 at the time, was in love with a woman who i wanted to marry, We had been together for two years at the time. We had talked repeatedly about spending our lives together and getting married, even having children. So I set up a romantic outing with all of her favorite things, Got down on my knee and proposed to her. She turned me down. I got up, I said nothing, I walked away. Leaving her where she was. I think she had to walk home. She was pissed at me, She called me, and i politely explained to her that i was done with her, that if she didn't want marriage, i was not going to waste my time with her any more. I told her that she was essentially dead to me, and that her stuff would be in a box on my front porch (she lived with me about 50% of the time). As of now, i am 41 and she is 38. She is still single, No children, No family, Alone. From what her friends told me about her situation, she also attempted suicide a few times and spent time in and out of the hospital. This is the life she condemned her self to. I have ZERO sympathy for her.

My opinion is this, If the man proposes, does everything right, makes an effort, And she says no, Any further association is a waste of time, and she becomes unworthy of marriage.

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Its a thought experiment. If you vote anything other than no amount of money could make me cheat you dont belong in adult relationships or marriage.

And if you vote, comment.

Do you prefer pretty or sympathetic looks in a friend or partner?

I daydream and think about romance a lot and having that one person that is my partner in crime forever. I have no interest in being with multiple women. But I find most people just want something temporary or non-serious. Is this hopeless and I'm being unrealistic?

I think it is good for the world for men to acknowledge the beauty of other women. Do you agree or disagree?

I'm hoping most of you agree. If you do agree, I'm sure there is a right way and a wrong way. Please share.

If you completely disagree, why? Would the jealousy/craziness come out no matter what or is something else?

Are you currently in a relationship, or single?