The important thing is that you guys love each other for who you are. You have to take note of any behaviour you cannot live with long-term. One of the most famous good Muslim converts is Mohammed Ali, he was a good man and was very dedicated to his religion. But his first marriage failed because of his conversion; she had to convert too but found it difficult. Janet Jackson recently divorced a muslim dude; while they were married she was often seen covering her hair but it was never confirmed if it was related to Islam. In Australia there is a rich dude called Salim Mahejer who married a white girl with blonde hair; got her to convert to Islam, he even got her to have plastic surgery to look more Arabic. She had to memorise the Koran before getting married.
This does not represent all relationships in such a scenario mainly because it depends on how serious one takes their beliefs. If you are serious about your current beliefs, they might conflict with his beliefs and cause more friction. But my advice is in this case you need to think with your head coz no matter what religion it is. Coz many religions can aggressively affect a new convert.
But in all this, love him for who he is. Don't try to change him or mock him.
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That is entirely up to you. I don't believe in that faith, but if you have no desire to follow through then leave. Because eventually if he goes through with it, he is going to be forced to leave you anyway if he can't have a woman who also desires the same thing. You want premarital sex and, no2 he realizing that's it wrong. BUT, he's getting into a faith that is damaging and controlling. That's what happens when you're living in sin. You attract people who does the same sin, then when you realize the kind of lifestyle was wrong, it will separate you from that person. At the end of the day he has to do what he thinks is right for him to do. He can't force you. But once he does go in, that relationship is already over.
Unconditional Love has to Play a Part from your Heart.
I am a Christian, and I had Married a Muslim over in Egypt a long time ago. Religion was Never a problem, But Residing under the same Rough and Tough Roof with Him and his Family, Was Later... Our Demise. And then Some, hun.
Think it Over. Everyone under the Sun has a Different Story.
Good Luck. xx
What the hell... Why would you leave him?
He just wants something to believe in when it comes to the afterlife and he's scared, that's why most people fall into religion.
If I was you, I would find out how his morals are going to be affected. Now maybe you're different, but to me a person's sense of right and wrong and the #1 most important thing. If Ik that you are a good person, any crazy shit (imo) that you might believe in isn't so bad. And if we share similar values, maybe we can make something work.
But if he is changing what he values as well as his religion, then... he's not even really the same guy you started dating. :/
I guess what im saying is, try to figure out just how much he is going to change. Not merely his behaviour like drinking, kissing, etc. But also what he thinks and feels, like INSIDE of him, you know?
Learn how his heart has changed and perhaps you will know if its time for your heart to change as well.
Leave and run the fuck away. Islam converts are prone to radicalisation.
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I know this post is old but I would love to know what happened and what you did? I am currently going through this myself 6 years deep into a relationship, we are engaged and trying to start a family. I am so conflicted and feel like my relationship is changing and I have no control. Its like do you follow your head or your heart. I have nothing against Islam but him changing from being a Christian to a Muslim means we have different beliefs, no celebrating birthdays, or Christmas, having to check every restaurant and holidays we go to for halal meat, friends and family cooking meals differently, drinking on your own.. etc Things that I never signed up for when he proposed. Yes I still love him but these things cause tension almost every day. its not as simple as people say " well you love him and he's not changed" That might be correct, but the things you once enjoyed together are no more and tbh I do feel like his personality has changed, he used to be the life and soul of the party, he doesn't socialize much with his non muslim friends either.
He is off on a path that may not be the path you would desire to be on. You need to be real clear as to what he expects from you. If it is you need to convert be very clear as to what you would have to do. If you are not a religious person I would say he has chosen the other path on this fork in the road.
Real question is are you okay with all that he is doing now? Do you love him enough to stay around that? Is he willing to accept that you aren't and won't be religious?
If you truly loved him then you wouldn't care. It's not even that his personality is changing, just his morals. Wow.
@Alice993 i'll sign up if that happens!
@kimmi863 Actually, it was found that in Islamic countries the majority of Muslims held extremist beliefs. This wasn't always related to suicide bombing but that was one example that came up. Mercy killing was one, apostasy being punishable by death, etc. So yes, stereotypes do exist and I've only ever met kind-hearted Muslims who are nothing like the stereotypes... but thats not to say that Islam isn't a disease that is turning people into criminalsSeparate it from the religion and judge him on his own behavior.
If the person he becomes as a result of the religion is no longer the person you love you should leave and consider him gone.
If he is the same person despite agreeing with the Islamic views and you can still love him stay.Transforming into another religion is a big thing and islamic traditions are quite different. i think it's not a good idea. your parents should obey it. if your love is deep then you can go for it. if not, just leave him coz it's not a small thing.
He doesn’t kiss you, stop drinking and stop having sex because he want to preserve you. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like, it means he respect you. Islam forbid people from doing so because women are precious. You can’t have a boyfriend who can touch all your body and when both of you are seperated, you get another one who will do the same. This man is trying to be pure and only have sex and kiss you when the you become his own ( his wife ). This is not only about Islam, but also others religion believe the same things.
If you truly love him, I would suggest you to give him time until you get married so you can do the things you want. He has no right to force you or to impose you to become something or change your status.He is finding God and that's a positive thing. He is finding his morals and trying to be a good man. It's a good thing islam has lead him to stop drinking because alcohol is not healthy anyways. However, the physical intimacy thing is something special so that it is done only with married couples in islam. Why don't you sit down and talk to him about it or let him explain islam to you and what it means to him so you can understand.
Are you still thinking? You dumb just block that shit and move on.
ISLAM is not a religion, its Just Copied from all religions and pasted into Quran with a lot of mistakes. Even their Prophet is Rapist and thief he married had sex with Ayesha at an age 6 when he was 54. It is hard to imagine people knowing this very well still consider him to be Prophet of God. Muhammad according to Muslims is a role model for whole mankind till the end of time, if he tries this stunt today he will be behind bars for life for child molestation. Muslims try to brush this off by saying she got menstruations at age 9, so it was ok to have sex with her, as menstruation was the criteria to have sex at that time.Having a relationship with the different faith, believer and un-believer, is hard. There is always one who feel hurt. Or both part. If you stay with him but doesn't support him 100%, i think, it will breaks his heart at the time. If you want to leave him now, just don't cut the friendship. He needs a support from someone. Converting to a religion is never easy.
Wait to see if he persists. If he persists, it's time to move on.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3I5cPOcsvIsEJECT! EJECT! There are plenty of stories where men convinced their girlfirend to Islam to marry in their country. Once there, they basically became slaves, forced to wear veils and abused by their husband.
Depends on his mindset. If he changes drastically. Then leave. If he is a bit liberal then you may continue.
You should embrace Islam together with your boyfriend. Islam is the future.
He won't even kiss you? Sounds like it's already over. This is not what you signed up for, and it's clearly not what you want. Find a nice non-religious guy. There are lots of them hoping to meet a non-religious girl.
this is a tough situation.. but if you're not religious and he's becoming more and more religious.. I don't think it's gonna work out.. I was raised Muslim.. but I am not religious and even I don't wanna be with someone who is religious...
Why would you left someone just because they change their religion? Well of course if you only want to have a boyfriend then leave him. If you really love him then you need to support him.
Personally I wouldn't stay, especially if he was headed down a radical view of Islam. The beliefs or morals he might take upon his code should be observed. If he starts demanding you cover up, well, that should be your red flag to escape.
There's something wrong with the way he thinks. I would break up. Next thing you know he'll order you to wear a hijab.
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