Do you believe God would still want you to get married if you are my age and single?

[jennifer_bloom]

I think many times God puts people together so they can have children but I'm 37 and I do not have a relationship at this point since some people date over 8 years before they marry. I want to do a 2-3 month dating period followed by an engagement, an arranged marriage like what people in South Asia or the Near East do. I still believe God might help me find a lifetime companion and husband even at my age right now. I know the type of person I want but since I work at home - I don't leave the house long enough to meet single guys.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

When you pray, move your feet

God helps those who help themselves

What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him?

For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.

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God waits for you all the time to command spirit. Spirit awaits direction from the soul.
God can not do for you what we can only do with and through you.

[TroyDT2]

My mom was 43 when she married and 44 when I was born 13 months later. As for what God can do... Sarah was 90. I know you do not want to wait, but any limit here would be self-imposed.

[Saville_Row]

I think it happens more and more lately with our generation. That said, during one of the biggest projects in the company I watched a director get a girlfriend his age (mid 40's) who had never been married. She was an architect, and in the same city as one of our plants. It was unlikely, but it happened. He was very happy and social but all of that is magnified now that they tied the knot. She's very good to him (and an excellent cook, I must say).

They won't likely have children, but they have each other. And I think a companion is just as important as kids.

If it doesn't happen, though, is that a big problem?

[BlueScorpio]

I think God can send the right person to you at any age. It's all about His timing and when He feels you are finally ready to be in relationship. Sometimes God can keep you single cause He's that He had aot work to do with you and also things about yourself that you need to fix and improve before going into a relationship. Someone He will keep you single cause rhe number ine relationship He wants you to focus on the most right now is the relationship with Him and Jesus.

[Datboi65]

I don't know what God's plan for you is, and neither do these people. To say that it would or wouldn't happen is a matter of the unknown. However, what can be said is that you are not helping your situation.

You cannot manifest your desires into existence, you have to take action and address a problem. God helps those that want to help themselves, and you simply cannot wish something into existence without taking action and prioritizing it. We seem to understand that principle for the job of our dreams, but we always fall short when it comes to marriage and relationships. Unfortunately people think that their future spouse will meet them completely by chance, and that is just not realistic.

So my advice? Keep the faith, but work towards it. Put yourself out more. Nobody said you should stop praying, but you should do both if you want better results.

Best of luck.

[mickmrly]

I think God would want you to be happy, and if getting married makes you happy there wouldn’t be a reason for him to not want you to get married. I don’t know that much about dating, but one of the things to do is try to go out and meet people as much as possible. This will both help you meet potential partners and also help you focus on other things in life apart from marriage.

[Finchie40]

I am in your shoes I am 44 and and was already married/ divorced once and have kids , my kids are pretty much on their way out into the world so I really can’t see myself starting over with the whole raising a family thing but I would love to fall in love again with a girl that wants to spoil each other and travel and be content , so yes I believe God wants us to find true love

[BCRanger10]

Then you should get out longer and meet more single guys. At any rate, yes. I have a good friend who didn't get married until he was in his 40s. And I also know a woman who didn't get married until her late 30s.

[art84]

I am 37 years old and only once in my 20's attempted to find a girlfriend. Didn't work out according to God's plan so I just stopped looking and settled for being single for the rest of my life. I think God does bring people together but you have to go looking for that person. It's not like they are going to show up in front of you.

[DoctorSex]

You know the type of person you want?

My dear, you're well past that point. The problem is all in your reply. I don't believe you're even aware how masculine you communicate. I wish I could go further however this is an epidemic amongst many modern day women and I've just come off a 2 hour phone calll explaining this very thing to one.

Shea accepting my guidance. Let's see if she can be saved.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[jennifer_bloom]

I might come across as masculine but what I believe is you can't afford to be shy and weak in a world where shy and weak people are tortured and raped and killed.

[Datboi65]

Boom. Found the root of the problem, your lack of trust. If you believe in extremes, then I recommend therapy. Remember, it's all about approach. You can be careful if you want to without the masculine energy. Remember you need to meet the demands of the market, and if the market ain't checking for you, then you gotta readjust. If you wanna put walls around you all the time, you will not get anywhere.

[DoctorSex]

I understand you.

However you linking femininity with shyness and weakness is a huge problem Jennifer. The ripples of that type of philosophy is causing you more problems than you're probably consciously aware of.

I'm not sure what type of man you're looking for, there's lots of effeminate boys who are looking for a controlling Dom female, so I'm not going to say you haven't got options... But you aren't freaking with a balanced man in that case.

Something has to give Jen...

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[DoctorSex]

*dealing with a with a balanced..

[DoctorSex]

@Datboi65 mmm good observation. Jim Rohn once said. ""the same walls were put up to keep out pain and heartbreak, also keep out love"

[Flower1382]

I believe that God wants us to be happy and if marriage makes you happy so why wouldn't he want that? and of course you can still find a great man to marry... age is just a number !! sometimes we should be patient in life... hope you find a nice guy soon!

[sheenagwapa]

If yoy pray to God He will give yoy what's best for you. sonetimes beinh single isn't really that bad better than with dishonest SO with his dishonest family and with his dishonest friends and workers


yoy don't beed that stress in your life. life is short be with someone who is faithful and will make you happy. i know what's like to be with that kind of relationship because of my own parents relationship. it's a life of heartache for the spouse who is loyal. don't waste your life

[AddylynnNightingale]

No I believe that something that significant rests entirely in your hands.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

God helps those who help themselves.
When you pray, move your feet.

[BUTIMRIGHTTHO]

You know Earl Nightingale?

[slatyb]

God isn't real to me, and even if God is real, they never make their desires known. Plenty of people find love after 30 or 40 or 50 or 60.

[AngryCarl]

God probably wants you to exercise free will.

[Staximus]

2-3 months is not long enough to get to know somebody before agreeing to marry them. You should probably live with them for a year first to figure out if you can tolerate each other

[AsaKyo]

I don't let religion dictate my life choices

[zagor]

God gave you free will - quit depending on God to send you someone.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Maybe he’ll give you a very kind and precious cat instead, they’re better anyways.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

There is no god who decides or watches our lives.

[WhitneySnow]

I think God would want you to get married

[altaboy]

Of course! Don't be ridiculous!