Can you or should you value independence and depend on God as a Christian?

[Vneila21]

Independence is tough to think about. Independence usually signifies the American Dream. To not depend on anybody for "simple" things such as paying bills, driving, overall movement etc. This is the way I see the American dream, and it seems like a small frame displaying a big picture. I have wanted independence since I was seven. I was tired of people saying "I didn't have the chops to be successful" because of my disability. Even this word made my blood boil, but I can't let this word define me. Philippians 4:13- "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."

Now I have a better relationship with Christ than I will ever have with people. It seems like people feel obligated to help, and it's hurts when they leave; it makes me feel like I am not important to them. It's true that God sends people to help for a season. Why would I refuse help when I want to help others? I cannot predict people's every move or why they do things. It is best to focus on what I do.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

If you want help, accept it. If you don’t, you’re not obligated to take it. Having any kind of disability, visible or otherwise, makes some able-bodies people feel obligated to “help” when it can really just feel like infantilization, and sometimes it is. Your desire for independence isn’t lessened because of your relationship with Christ. If anything, you should listen to that urge even more since you’ve had it from such a young age and He made you in His image. But I think a better question to ask isn’t what you’re asking, but rather why independence is so important to you, what does it mean for you to be independent? I’m sure the idea alone helps you to rid yourself of certain burdens you see in the help of others’ but I think a better question is what do you gain from independence?

[Vneila21]

I see, I will be sure to write about it in my journal. Thank you :)

[NathanDavis]

I don't believe in independence...

I do believe in community very much but also on being resourceful and responsible for one self and to others, and I am very much responsible for my part on my own, but also rely rather than depend on others... I rely on others, work with others, live with others, cooperate with others

and I definitely seek bonds and that sense of community because without, I will not do any good... lol

[OneViewpoint]

Depend on "God" for what?

• To never show up when the shit hits the fan?
• To start religious "Holy Wars" in the name of (insert name of your god here)?
• To get science and medicine completely fucked up and turned backwards?
• To give power and money to a "priest class" who will tell you what "God" wants?

Nah, none of that crap sounds attractive to me. I'm fine without your magic invisible sky fairy and your book of lies.

[Vneila21]

Well, no not exactly as you said it. Jesus doesn't force anyone to believe in him. People try to; whenever that happens, they are not influenced by The Lord. His grace alone saves. Nobody thinks straight when they feel forced. The enemy wants to make us forget who we are in Christ because he wants to be God. Ya can't copy what The Almighty created.
Some science and medicine can work with the Christian ideology. We were made to create, since there's sin in the world we do not always create for His glory. People don't like change, but God is not afraid of it. He's been to the past, present and future. He's seen it all, yet He chooses to go though it with us, suffer with us, talk with us. God isn't picky on who He chooses to work with like we are. He chooses the people who have open hearts and curious minds. Who God anoints, that person needs to fight against any spirit that tries to force them back to the pain, wreckage etc.
I don't know about your life or whether it's a whole lot different from mine. Never is a strong word. I live and breathe for His glory. Jesus saved me again and again. Time goes by fast on Earth. wallowing only takes a moment covered by a hand like God's.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim is to help you blend your values with your relationships! Independence and spiritual reliance are kinda like the perfect peanut butter and jelly sandwich—best together! Balancing both means cherishing the freedom to grow and learn while leaning on your faith for guidance and strength. It's tender, it's fierce, and it's okay to let people in—just keep the faith and your door open! Keep rocking your divine connection, and remember, you're the star of your own show! 🌟💕

[WonderingManII]

As your friend, I will say something. I think you are a deep thinker. But I don't know the answer to these questions.

[Vneila21]

:D It's great to not know the answer to some things!

[WonderingManII]

@vneila21 🥰 I agree. 🥰

[strateguy632]

Independent from humans.

[Anonymous]

Yeah