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There are stories every year where a transwoman won't disclose that she is trans immediately to the guy and they will go on dates and maybe do something sexual before the man finds out.

Guys reaction to this is often violence which results in brutal beating of the transwoman and in some cases an attempt at homicide.

For example, February of last year, an 18 y/o transwoman from the UK performed BJ on a guy. The guy found out she was trans later and then got together with his group of friends and stabbed her multiple times with a knife. She was rushed in critical condition to the ICU but luckily survived and now has trust issues and fear to leave her home.

"In January 2024, the girl was with Harris at his house, and while there, a mutual friend called Harris telling him she was “trans”.

“Having been attacked in the past because of her transgender identity, she denied it,” prosecutor Deanna Heer KC told jurors.

She and Harris then kissed, and she performed oral sex on him, the court heard.

Soon afterwards, another friend told Harris that the girl was a “tranny”, the prosecutor said.

She denied it again, but when Harris picked up a knife and said, “I’ll stab you if you lie”, she felt intimidated and admitted that she was transgender before Harris told her to leave."

Keep in mind, the men who engaged in sexual activity were not forced to do the act. They found what was in front of them as attractive and willingly took part in the deed. And while yes the transwoman did lie by not disclosing she was trans, do you think this reaction from men to go straight for violence with intent to kill or main is justified?

My friend called me this week saying that I say unnecessary things & those things take jabs at her. She's a "girl's girl" & some things sound like I'm competing
She gave me 2 examples out of many
1. She said someone was talking to us about shoes & I said I got them 1st (i specifically dont remember that moment, but I'll give it to her because people don't remember things unless it's attached to a filtering emotion)
2. She mentioned how her ex talked & hugged her & I said he does that with everybody
(That I explained as protection cuz they broken up twice & I've had my own breakup in which my ex liked me physically but didn't want to be with me
I know her ex is not extreme like that but I didn't want her to get her hopes up on something he does to everybody
She should look for other signs.) She still said I shouldn't say it like that
I could understand what she means however while we're in conversation I thought that phrase was precise & got my point across quickly & she never brought it up to me until now
How was I suppose to know she didn't like it & how am I suppose to hold a conversation & know which comments are unnecessary
In general conversations are unnecessary unless you need something from the other person (health/businesswise) Then she said she's upset that she keeps having to find out information from my ex in terms of my dad being sick or me being sick (my ex only knows because we still work together & when he ask wya, i tell him) but her schedule is random I don't know when she's sleep, on the road, etc so it's up to her. When I did reach out, it was at the wrong time, so I got tired of doing it. Also when I told her I was sick, specifically what I was going through, it felt like she forgot or didn't look up what's happening to me for herself. And when we went on outings/convos when my sickness played a role in our interaction, empathy wasn't present, so why tell her? Should I let her know or let it fade?