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My friend can't ever forgive her parents ever getting disowned for getting pregnant at 18. She's now 32, in a stable marriage, they both own a business and her two kids are both ages 14 and 9.

Her parents all of the sudden are all remorseful and want her back. However, this was her reply back to them ''My biological parents died long ago. Goodbye''. She then proceeded to blocking them.

She can't ever forgive that they didn't give a rats about her life (her 2nd pregnancy nearly cost her life; it got complicated), health, her first child's birth, her wedding, her b-days, etc. She also suspects they're just contacting her only after finding out she's having a good life and wouldn't be reaching out if she was poor and struggling? Her then boyfriend (now husband) took full responsibility and she received support from his parents. They were like a real parents to her. She also imagines that even if she forgives them and were to have them back in her life, she would never forget what they're capable of and that their love was never unconditional, that they would leave her during bad times again.

Would you forgive and give a 2nd chance if you got disowned or not? Personally, I agree with my friend. I would never be able to forgive that.

Girliess and boys, so me and this guy been dating about 1 year (last month was our 1 year anniversary)

Lately we start getting into fights like looot , sometimes its me okey we all do mistakes and shit happens but its okey i apologize it never was or will be probleme for me to admit my mistake and say that im wrong, whats really bother me is that even after i apology and show a real regret he won't stop nagging about the subject he keep just talking untill he actually says something hurtful

He is talktive in his nature i really love that about him but sometimes its just no, he crosses the line a create a problem even if its not something serieux anyways latelty he start geting mad on whatever like the last time we fought because he missed heared me! Yes! He said that cursed him while i didn't i was talking about someone else! But i tried to talk and make things cooler

I dont know i start feeling like he doesn't care if i got mad or probably i can forgive him easly (i dont keep nagging about it) i wanna put him in his place again ( im not being toxic) but being kind and understanding doesn't seem to be solution he is really nice guy but i can't really handle those stuff i feel like i have been really easy with him

(I dont need break up with him advice please)

i met this guy on yikyak and although we never shared pictures or exchanged social media or talked on call, we described to each other how we look. i lied about my appearance (i’m overweight and not conventionally attractive so i was insecure). i’m (18F) talking to a guy (21M). we started off with just sexting. we caught feelings for each other and are still talking (since January 2024). the thing is that initially in the beginning i didn’t give him my real name or which city i live in. slowly over time, these lies built up. i didn’t think we would even talk for more than a week but we still are. he knows my age, where and what i study, but i lied to him about my name, where i live, my ethnicity/nationality (i’m a woc), what my parents do, sibling, what i look like, and some of my outfits. i also told him i have an ex of 6 years who cheated on me (i was embarrassed i didn’t have any ex when he has 2-3). over time as we caught feelings for each other, he told me he would like to meet me (he’d fly to where i study), ask me out, date me for a couple of years and finally marry me and have a family with me. i think despite these lies we have a real connection- we talk about our dreams and ambitions, our feelings, our favorite music and movies, we talk about books, about our families, our problems, our achievements and pretty much everything. i’m the only person besides his mom who he has told about what he wants to do in the future. we talk most of the day and sleep together on spotify jam. i made him a playlist and he made me one. this weekend he asked me to make a playlist for us to sleep to. a week ago, i told him i loved him and he told me he loved me. i genuinely love this guy a lot and want to have a real relationship with him. should i tell him the truth? if so, how will he react? or should i just tell him i can’t meet because my parents don’t approve and let him go forever?

I'm impressed with my parents' endurance, given their past infidelity decades ago. Obviously I was too young to even form sentences at the time. Actually I wasn't even born when mom cheated first and they weren't married yet. Yup they still got married later on.

Mom got caught (on his couch with his former friend... the journal I read had the graphic details of it, more than what I'm even posting) and dad cheated back years later but at least he felt terrible and confessed himself shortly. I know they worked it out long ago. Though if the cheater got caught, can trust really be regained in that case? If they confess at least there is a small chance since the person came clean but if they got caught, that has to be nearly impossible.

Apart from the hard work they did, I would like to know how is the relationship like if they stay together. Can a human really be capable of forgiving and forgetting that and regain trust if they wanted to? Personally I don't think I can work that, no matter how much counseling sessions, no way I would overcome that.