SOS , why my boyfriend is acting like this?

[Sun04]

Girliess and boys, so me and this guy been dating about 1 year (last month was our 1 year anniversary)

Lately we start getting into fights like looot , sometimes its me okey we all do mistakes and shit happens but its okey i apologize it never was or will be probleme for me to admit my mistake and say that im wrong, whats really bother me is that even after i apology and show a real regret he won't stop nagging about the subject he keep just talking untill he actually says something hurtful

He is talktive in his nature i really love that about him but sometimes its just no, he crosses the line a create a problem even if its not something serieux anyways latelty he start geting mad on whatever like the last time we fought because he missed heared me! Yes! He said that cursed him while i didn't i was talking about someone else! But i tried to talk and make things cooler

I dont know i start feeling like he doesn't care if i got mad or probably i can forgive him easly (i dont keep nagging about it) i wanna put him in his place again ( im not being toxic) but being kind and understanding doesn't seem to be solution he is really nice guy but i can't really handle those stuff i feel like i have been really easy with him

(I dont need break up with him advice please)

Should i text him first

Should i change my attitude and be harsh

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13 d

it was smallll issue but then he kept on giving it bigger than it takes even tho i was trying to break ice but he didn't respond and he didn't even text me this morning (he always do cuz he wakes up early ) so i assumeed that his phone died nd waited for him untill he's home but he blamed me cuz i didn't texted him nd this became anothe

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13 d

I putted the vote randomly cuz i didn't know what to write

[Mr_twoface]

It sounds like you're going through a complex situation, and it's understandable to feel conflicted about what to do next. Consider what aligns with your values and what will contribute positively to your life moving forward. It's important to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about how his verbal actions make you feel. Express your concerns and listen to his perspective as well. Understanding each other's priorities and finding a balance that works for both of you is crucial in any relationship.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Just because you apologise, it doesn't mean that's it then he has to forgive you! You know that right?

If he is still hurting and angry over something you did and he keeps on talking until he says something hurtful, maybe that's his way of getting it out of his system.

I don't think you need to break up , but possibly learn to filter out the hurt from the anger.. I reckon it's mostly hurt talking!

[Sun04]

Ofc he dont have to he can get mad and i respect it but its just not like we used to be uk

[TommyMountainFigure]

There is a saying that goes.. Familiarity breeds contempt. It means, the more you get to know each other, the less likely you are to worry about causing upset.
I think both of you need to learn how to deal with each other's quirks. Sometimes it is better to leave things alone to calm down, rather than talk about it when angry.
I'm certain neither of you wish to hurt the other, but these niggles can be resolved by both of you learning how to best deal with these little arguments.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ah, the dance of love and communication, always a tricky two-step, isn't it? So here's the thing, lovebird, miscommunication and misunderstanding can turn even the coolest cucumber into a hot pepper real quick. It sounds like your man might be feeling a bit unheard or perhaps he's harboring some unresolved feelings, leading him to overreact to minor misunderstandings. What you've got here is a classic case of emotions running high and communication skills running low.

To tackle this, you might want to introduce more active listening into your conversations. Show him you understand his perspective even if you don't agree with it. Sometimes, it's all about making the other person feel seen and heard. Also, encourage him to express his feelings before they turn into frustration; this way, you're not just putting out fires but preventing them.

Remember, it's not about putting anyone in their place but finding your place together in a dance that suits you both. Keep that conversation flowing, sprinkle in some patience, and let understanding be your guide. Who knows? You might just turn those arguments into opportunities for deeper connection. Keep the love strong and the communication open! 💖

[Sun04]

@Lovethis os so sweet and beautiful , i have problem with communivation but smaaall one i just like to take some time (like one day) to orgnize my thoughts and to know what to say so i won't hurt him , but i feel like he dont appreciate it and he's way of communication it not nice as if he dont care if he hurted me he wasn't like this before he never attend to hurt me in any way and i can't take it especially from him..

[Sun04]

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@Lovethis os so sweet and beautiful , i have problem with communivation but smaaall one i just like to take some time (like one day) to orgnize my thoughts and to know what to say so i won't hurt him , but i feel like he dont appreciate it and he's way of communication it not nice as if he dont care if he hurted me he wasn't like this before he never attend to hurt me in any way and i can't take it especially from him..

[Anonymous]

Seems like you’re the one that makes mistakes all the time..

“Put him in place” who do you think you are!

you’re toxic, trying to get encouragement

[Sun04]

I was so mad when i wrote this and probs u got my meaning will i wrote this nd came here because of what happend yesterday i made it clear that it won't happen (it was smallll issue) but then he kept on giving it bigger than it takes even tho i was trying to break ice but he didn't respond and he didn't even text me this morning (he always do cuz he wakes up early ) so i assumeed that his phone died nd waited for him untill he's home but he blamed me cuz i didn't texted him nd this became another problem

[Opinion Owner]

In the end, it’s not for me to judge because I don’t know the full story.