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There is a negative stereotype that men are slower to grow up and mature when it comes to how they treat the opposite gender.

Personally I know I think and react differently towards women in general compared to how I was in my teens and early 20s. I am more careful about the comments I make, refrain better from starring too long (if she’s attractive), I communicate better if I am interested or not, I make better thought out decisions and I handle rejection better (and reject others better) compared to the younger version of myself

I also know most women hate the feeling of “being used and/or lied to for sex.” If it’s a hook up or fling I’ll be open about my true intentions even if it costs me want. Not to say I was a liar when I was younger. But years ago I would stay tight lipped if I just wanted one thing when the other girl was thinking we would get in a relationship. In retrospect I recognize that was wrong. Nowadays I don’t give false hope.

That of course doesn’t mean I’m perfect. I will continue to make mistakes. However I am more cognizant of how the other gender thinks now. I also am less likely to get caught off guard if a bad gut sense about something.

With that said I’ve have unfortunately encountered a lot of grown ass women in their 30s and even older that still show blatant immaturity. The worse example is how some of them still play dumb if a guy is interested (and woman isn’t) to exploit the friéndzone for attention and benefits.

I would think a grown woman would know better than to do that. It’s not a sex issue but a respect issue. The guy has only so much time, resources and patience to stick his neck out.

He can handle rejection but being friendzoned is extremely insulting. He will usually figure it out faster than a young man and when he does he will feel exploited.

Just meeting older woman who still believe in this crap is insane.

Is it because drinks are often tied with hookups or is there something else or is there likely a different reason than because of the bar? I know there are other reasons. I'm just wondering about the likelihood

I know there are some girls who are happy to get a drink in her system, so she can loosen up, and maybe she wants to hook up too, but what do you think?