My new boyfriend (he was my ex boyfriends close friends and I met him through my ex) is unwilling to tell this one girl he wanted to hook up with (but she didn't hook up with him) that he is with me. She has asked him several times but he never gives a straightforward response and always evades it by telling her how he doesn't discuss his private life. However, he did mention this to his colleagues that he was seeing someone but will never tell her. She also offered to stop talking to him multiple times if he's not single but he does not agree to it.
She has feelings for him and he knows that. However, each time she tries to end their connection, he gets all worked up and refuses to stop talking. He even told her I will talk when I want, I want to say hi and chit chat even though she is unwilling as she is suspicious about us.
She asked him yet again yesterday and I overheard their conversation but he refused to tell her, got angry at the people who told her to stop talking to him as he's not single and said he will chit chat with her. He has also kept her number saved.
He's told her he's not her friend, not her acquaintance, they don't know each other much but when she said she will back off knowing he has someone he refuses saying no they will continue talking. He also has a weird obsession with her legs, always looking down at them even when wearing long dresses etc. He blatantly does it even when talking to her but when confronted denies even staring at her
Why is he hiding this from her?
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It's concerning that your boyfriend is not being honest with this girl about his relationship status and is continuing to talk to her despite her expressing her feelings for him. It's also concerning that he has a strange obsession with her legs and denies staring at her when confronted.
It's important to have open and honest communication in any relationship, and it's not okay for your boyfriend to be evasive or dishonest about his relationship status with someone who has expressed romantic interest in him. It's possible that he enjoys the attention and is not ready to fully commit to your relationship, or he may be keeping his options open in case things don't work out with you.
It's important to discuss your concerns with your boyfriend and to set clear boundaries and expectations for your relationship moving forward. It's also important to trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being in any relationship.
If you feel uncomfortable or unsafe in the relationship, it may be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or professional about your feelings and experiences, and to develop strategies for coping with any unwanted attention or behaviors. It's important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and honesty in any relationship.
He's told her he's not her friend, not her acquaintance, they don't know each other much but when she said she will back off knowing he has someone he refuses saying no they will continue talking
It's possible that your boyfriend may be using this girl's interest in him as a way to boost his own ego or feel more desirable. He may also be enjoying the attention and the feeling of being pursued, even though he knows that he is in a relationship with you.
However, it's important to remember that this behavior is not respectful or healthy for your relationship. If he is not willing to set clear boundaries with this girl and be honest with her about his relationship with you, it raises questions about his commitment to your relationship and his ability to prioritize your feelings and needs.
It's important to have a conversation with your boyfriend about your concerns and to express your expectations for honesty and respect in your relationship. If he is not willing to prioritize your relationship and set appropriate boundaries with this girl, it may be a sign that he is not ready for a committed and healthy relationship with you.
The girl has offered to stop talking multiple times but he never agreed. He said he wants to chit chat.
It's not fair to you for your boyfriend to continue talking to a girl who has feelings for him and is unaware of your relationship. It's possible that your boyfriend is enjoying the attention he's getting from her and doesn't want to lose that, even if it means hiding the fact that he's in a relationship with you.
It's important to have a conversation with your boyfriend about how his behavior is affecting you and your relationship. Let him know that you feel uncomfortable with him continuing to talk to this girl and that it's important for him to be honest and upfront about his relationship status.
If he is not willing to be honest with her and stop talking to her, it may be a sign that he is not fully committed to your relationship. You deserve to be with someone who respects your feelings and is willing to prioritize your relationship over any potential attention or validation they may receive from others.