He told me he think I’m beautiful and that he wants to date me but that his last relationship was 8 months because his ex cheated on him and now he just sleeps with girls but they never sleepover his place but that he would want me to stay with him… I know he’s a player but he didn’t have to say any of that because he already hooked up with me.
Is he ghosting me or re-evaluating things with us?
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I've reached out and my last message was this Sunday but i’m not planning to try again. I’m also cool with him and I just having a summer fling.
What Guys Said
He got what he wanted from you and found someone else to do it with. If you know he's a player, why do you care? Unless you enjoy being used
so why would he text and call me the same week we had sex? And then go MIA. We don’t live in the same city either by the way.
Because he found another girl shortly after he hit you up. You're used goods now, it's time for something new. Would be my guess.
Of course this is assuming he is indeed a player
We don’t live in the same city so him calling me wasn’t a booty call obviously … he told me he usually has sex with a girl and then asks them to leave his place but that he would want me to stay with him for a weekend because he can learn from me.
And you believe him? Lol
Part of being a player is making the girls you're PLAYING feel like they're special
I just let him express himself. I never asked him anything about his sex life. I just wanted to have sex. I believe that part where he sends girls back home after sex. Everything else probably not. But him calling me from a different city has to mean something even if he is just a player.
Well…. He did ask me if I wanted to know whenever he hooks up with another girl because we spoke about how I would want him to date other people since its long distance
Interesting. Who knows, he might be telling the truth. Clearly neither of you are interested in anything real, so I wouldn't be surprised when he falls off the map. It could mean 100 different things
I’m interested in having a fling with him but I’m open to dating him if he really wants to do that. He even said he wouldn’t want me dating other guys because he wouldn't date other girls if we really tried it out. And he admitted he wasn’t the relationship type but that he likes me a lot so its hard for him
So why won't he text you back?
I guess that's your question lol.
I have no idea, unless he's lying because he knows women. Most won't stick around for meaningless sex unless there's a chance of something more.
Even if they say they will. Most of the time it's not true
I’ll just have to trust my gut on this one and see where things go/lead to but I know that I love having fun with him so whenever he texts/calls me I’ll see. He tried to facetime me the first night we met and wanted to take a selfie with me to post on his social media which was a bit odd but he showed me all his photos on his phone so nothing to hide and messages.
That's weird, so he did reach out
Yup, that's all you can do. Wait and see
He reached out the first night we met and tried to facetime me (which was new to me we also didn't have sex yet) and then when we actually had sex he texted and called me 3 days later but I haven't heard back from him in 2 weeks.
You could try texting him. He's not ghosting you unless he doesn't respond when you reach out
He has responded to my texts (which are super short one liners) or my call so I have reached out. So he must be ghosting me then.
He hasn’t responded*
Yeah, he's ghosting you if it's been 2 weeks. I'm sorry about that. Forget that dick and move on
Yeah. my last message to him was this Sunday. I’m just gonna leave it at that. I’m deff gonna move on. thank you for the advice. I’m not mad at him though which is very weird.
Well your expectations were low lol. Which is good. Best of luck to you
I think he’ll text me tho cause we didn’t complete the sex. He couldnt get it up cause he was too drunk so I feel like I should be ghosting him.
Lol, that's pretty funny. I wisp if I were you. If he wants another shot, he should put in the effort. You're not a call girl
*would
Thanks lol. Yeah my expectations were very low.
Yah exactly! We also don’t live in the same city so it would have to be planned. I feel like when he comes back to my city he’ll let me know if he wants to redeem himself lol. He said next time he’ll be sober to have sex. We had sex for like 10 mins when he was sober. Lol thats nothingg
Like let me know he’ll come to my city beforehand
Yeah you got that right! He better come back with something good lol
Yeah he better be sober!! He told me he can’t get it up with me when he drinks so he’ll definitely be sober next time. Maybe he’s embarrassed thats why I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks. A player who can’t get it hard is awkward. Lol
😂😂 yeah it could be shame. Whiskey dick is definitely real though... lol
It was so bad! He even said to me, “this must be the worst sex you’ve ever had” 😂 but I've tried reaching out to show i’m willing to give it another try since I know he feels a type of way.
Be honest. Do you think he’ll be sober when we meet next then? He did come with me to the cafe the next day he wanted to see where I got coffee? Lol probably felt bad he couldnt perform
He will be if he wants to perform better this time! It's hard to say though
Its hard to say because of the 2 week gap I guess. And I don’t know him well enough to predict anything.
Thank you for your honesty! It makes me happy he’ll be sober. Lol