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When you are young, and especially the first time, the decision to move in together is exciting. If you are living with your parents, you will finally be out from under their watchful eye. You will be spending EVERY night with your sexual partner. Not only is it romantic, but it is a sign to others (and yourself) that you are moving into the arena of adult relationships, instead of just the hanging out/dating, home by midnight or 1 am that teens do, but. . .

something that many couples don't consider is the psychological consequences of moving into HIS place vs. moving into HER place vs. getting a new place that the two of you move into together. Economics or other considerations may dictate that you move into his or her existing space, but that doesn't always work so well.

She moves into his place and wants to redecorate but he already has his place EXACTLY the way that he wants it. Or he moves into her place and can't stand the sixteen stuffed animals on her bed but she's had them since she was a little kid. Or you get into an argument and suddenly, he says, "This is my place, so why don't you get the hell outta here?"

Moving into your own place solves some of those problems and gives you an initial task to work on together, and you are more likely to create a space that is not yours, and not his (or hers) but it is your space together.

How did this work out when you moved in with your SO?

I've been in two at this point, there was a girl I was with for 6 months in 2020 but she had her mom tell me she passed away and months later when I was talking with who is now my girlfriend, I was given answers by her new boyfriend at the time when I begged him to say something.

She ended up messaging me but offered no explanation and the only apology i got was "I'm moving in with him in a year, sorry". While it sucks that it ended that way, I'm glad she didn't die cause the last thing I did before that stunt was pulled was ask her why she didn't tell me about the late text she got from who's now her current boyfriend at the time. Yeah, that sucked and I wish I'd been with my current girlfriend from the start.

Me and her are still together and going strong. We talk every single day and say "I love you" every day. She's been there for me like nobody else has and I've done the same for her and will continue to.

I've grown so happy with her that I question the way I described finding her, I said trying to find someone was like being on a planet made out of trash and fecal matter knowing that for the entire planet, there's one microscopic diamond there but the rest is literal shit and I had to dig until I found it.

Of course it was all worth it as I now experience love which is something I thought for a long time, I'd never experience in my life and it's wonderful. I'd never want to be with anyone else but I did question if describing so many people as trash and fecal matter in my analogy was too harsh.

However, as soon as I started watching loyalty tests, yeah I'm thinking I was right on the money there, pun intended. You name it and girls + guys did it in those tests, it's sad that people are so horrible to eachother nowadays.

What do you value most in a relationship? The most important things for me are affection, support, gotta at least be cute, nice, genuine, introverted and loyal. Money is a factor but not a big one for me