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28F, I can confidently say I have never been approached by a guy I’d want to date. I’m told I’m cute and attractive but guys never approach me, on the rare occasions they do it’s not the guys you’d want. Most women seem to get bfs easily, I use the dating apps and lack of matches are never the problem it just doesn’t work out. Over the years of using them on and off, I’ve become more and more disinterested. Before I get the “why don’t you approach men yourself” speech, I’ve tried bumble and didn’t change my luck. I met one guy but he annoyed me a lot, I feel like im unlucky in love. I already consider myself 30 & I told myself if it didn’t happen by 26 it’s not meant to be. Yes I’m very quiet and not the friendliest but that’s not a dealbreaker, look at all those high maintenance women that are taken. Any women around my age relate?

You could have multiple, but is your biggest motivator in life?

Advancement : having a new goal and seeing yourself succeed. Managing to get that new promotion or meeting a new dead line, etc.

Madness : Having a new enemy/target to face, a new competition to win at, etc. You want to be the best at what you do and be better than anyone else.

Individuality : you're motivated by your "future life" or how your life could be like. Maybe you want safety and some good ol' recognition.

Purpose : wanting to be in the history books and written about, maybe by changing the world or by helping others.

I was reading "Your Next Five Moves" by Patrick Bet David (& Greg Dinkin) recently. one of the things the book talks about is the different types of motivation, Hench the question.