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Some people have “ribbing” yet teasing attitudes towards other people particularly of opposite gender and/or people they are interested in. It’s like teasing your crush to show confidence and/or get them to open up their more “real” side. It can also be about testing people by playing hard to get to see if they can “handle you”.

Women often do this to men to as quasi shit test to see if they are smart ass enough to deal with their sassiness. Men do this to women as a sign of confidence and/or to give off a slight asshole vibe because they know many girls like that.

But I noticed this is more common in some parts of the country (and world) than others. Los Ángeles and New York City are notorious for this.

Personally I never liked it. Unless the girl hits the absolute right teasing chemistry and I’m in the mood to banter it’s doesn’t get me turned on. Different if I’ve already known her for a bit and we are already well acquainted. But if I’m interested I am not looking to play faux asshole just to create a jibe to be more interesting. Rather have a real conversation with maybe some practical joking about other things besides each other.

But I think some men and women always start out with joking and slightly hard to get attitude when they like someone. It also their way of avoiding being boring at all costs.

So did men do this in response to what women want or vice versa?