I ended a three year relationship with a woman over three words. 'I may have'?

[ethanallen]

I was in a five year relationship with a woman when I shared some confidential information. Within a week, I discovered that a guy that she knows learned of the confidential information. This was not about a crime , just personal information. When were alone, I asked her directly "Did you disclose to your friend, "john", what I said to you in confidence last week." I expected a "yes" or a "no". Instead, she said "I may have" and nothing more. I said nothing more, got up, walked away and never spoke to her again. I realized then she was a low class whore that I could never marry.

[AviatorTom]

That's a bit harsh. You ended a 5-year relationship because she talked to a friend? I'm guessing you were looking for a way out of this relationship, and this gave you that opportunity. If that's not true, you should go back to her and beg forgiveness. She did nothing really wrong, maybe not the best idea to reveal something you told her in confidence, but is that really enough to call her a "low class whore" and end a long-trem relationship? Most people would say NO, it's not!

[ethanallen]

I don't stay in a relationship because I need to. I stay in a relationship because the woman adds value to my life. A partner who cannot be trusted is someone who cannot be inside my wire.

[Guy13]

AND/OR a "friend" that could never be trusted as related to her judgment. There's a possibility that she was sleeping with that guy and posses a more intimate/emotional connection with John.-He's obviously the priority.

[ethanallen]

I thought the same; she probably had something going on with John that I was unaware of. I didn't even ask because if she would refuse to be honest when asked about confidentiality, why would she be honest about monogamy.

[Guy13]

Yep, but she will be testing you...

[ethanallen]

Do you mean "she was testing me?" I assume you meant that she was testing to see if she could behave poorly and I would tolerate it.

[Guy13]

She WILL be testing you. Women get turned on by their boyfriend when he takes charge. You took charge in a way that she did not know was in you. Testing is forthcoming at some point, I think.

[Autember]

It seems like a perfectly valid reason to end a relationship.

[Emiliamazing]

When trust is betrayed, often times there’s no going back.

[ZackBan]

Were you wrong to be pissed? No.
But if you have been together for half a decade I would say she deserved a chance to explain herself, unless this is one of a 1000 other flaws

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds like that breakup was for the best.

[Pegases]

Well done.