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So to begin with I felt kinda sorry for him because he was in a car accident, ended up partially paralysed and his wife left him.

However, he later told me he’d had at least two other accidents where he’d been driving about 100mph. The 3rd one happened because he hit a tree driving at 120mph, which caused him to be wheelchair bound. This was just after the birth of his 4th child about 4 years ago. So immediately I just think it’s selfish that you’d risk your life like that knowing you have a wife and 4 children that you could potentially leave behind.

Now he’s in the process of divorce, he’s told me all about how she’s been toxic and deliberately damaged his car a few times. He also told me she’d said she wishes he’d died in the accident one of the times they were arguing. And she also voiced she wished she could sleep with a celebrity. She also told him that one of their kids wasn’t his.

For me, all of that immediately then put me off because it sounds like there’s been toxicity in that relationship, but I wonder if he put so much pressure on her that she snapped. I’ve tried to suggest that he should work things out with her as they were together 17 years and I think she maybe had attempted to fix things at one point, but he was too stubborn. He’s now adamant he’s ‘moved on’ and is wanting to date me, I’m beginning to wonder if it’s a ploy to rub things in her face and get back at her.

thoughts?

I was at the mall today and this guy stopped me to tell me I’m gorgeous.

I looked around to see if it was a prank and ultimately said no. And I thanked him for being sweet

then I tried to leave and he got in front of me to stop me, I said I was in a hurry.

he said I was too beautiful for this opportunity to just slip by and if I could just take his number

I said no sorry I’m in a hurry. I didn’t want to say I’m too old, I just knew it and wanted to leave and he got in-front of me again and insisted I take his number so I did it.

so he’s texting me now and I told him I’m more than 10+ years older than you so this is not gonna work, wish you the best.

but he insists that it can work because I’m exactly his type. He says

and what’s weirder is that I wasn’t wearing any makeup at all! And wearing large oversized pants and large oversized shirt. How is this even attractive. I feel strange.

I almost never go out. I don’t have a partner and don’t have kids.

I want family as most do, but I think a 27 year old will not stay with me because of the age even if he says he feels im his type.

what’s your guy’s advice?

I know plenty of women who by 40 are already done with relationships, already had kids and just want to have fun, maybe that type is the type most 27 year olds would want because it’s just a “fun time” and then move on..

but I’m different. I’m not done with relationships because I’ve never had one. I’m not done with kids because I’ve never tried to have one before. I’m want a permanent partner, love and a little family.

If he insists I need to just keep saying no right?

we look about the same age but the fact remains I’m 10+years older