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I'm 40, and recently broke up with my boyfriend (47) of 11 months. We had hundreds of days filled with highs, he is social, charming, has a lot of friends, loves going out, having fun. He was very sweet, romantic and caring during these times. There were red flags that I tried to rationalize- binge drinking multiple times a week, crippling debt from student loans and cc (>200K), no career motivation and health issues that started popping up (probably from drinking). We had 6-7 arguments over the last year, that I thought were heated but never out of control (and always under the influence of alcohol). The next day we'd both apologize and move on. I realized he'd get overwhelmed then, and sometimes even at the smallest disagreement or when I needed to vent (when both were sober). I showed concern about his health and debt and the stupid fights that happened while drinking. Asked him to cut back, but he was super defensive and in denial. Fast forward to the new year, we were going to move in together and he was going to propose. He suddenly started acting disinterested and cold and last week suddenly declares he doesn't want to move in together. I'm taken aback and ask why, and he brings up the fights and that it's too frequent. I ask if he's overwhelmed with all his issues, and he admits he is, but keeps blaming me for the fights. I say I'll work on being more understanding and only bring up stuff while we're both sober and in a calm way, but I can't change the past, only do better in the future. He's reluctant to accept my words and I finally ask in frustration if he wants to break up. He says he doesn't know what wants, but needs time on his own to think. Over the next 3 weeks, I don't hear from him and he ignores my call and texts, forcing me to text and email him an official breakup note. Rationally, I know he's not good for me in his current state, but my heart still loves him. I want to know if a man like this can change. Does he deserve a second chance?

I have an older sister (15 years my senior) who only hits me up when she wants money…. literally! Or simply when she wants something from me. It hasn’t always been this way, but for the past year or so I’m always the one initiating contact and most of the time she never answers or returns my calls/texts. I get ignored, but as soon as one of her bills are due or she claims she’s in need she will quickly pick up the phone and won’t hesitate to ask (constantly by the way). She didn’t even call on my birthday to wish me a happy birthday and that was like the icing on the cake for me. In a situation like this I won’t lie it hurts because I thought my sister and I were close, but apparently not. She even went as far as to tell me she doesn’t care about my boyfriend. That comment hurt because usually I can confide in her about my relationship but I don't know what made her not care anymore. It’s been almost 2 months now and she just hit me up today to ask if I could un cancel my Netflix so she could watch. Not a “how are you?”, “how’s life?”, or nothing just can I have, can I have, can I have! I’m at my wits end and although it sucks and it’s hurtful, I’m ready to cut the line and say you know what I tried but this is toxic and it’s not worth it because I do feel like it’s a one sided relationship. My question is should I? Or what would you do in a situation like this?