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There are things that will benefit us more than men and other things that's more suitable for the man. Putting aside your own feelings and going for what's more beneficial for other gender (prefering their happiness over your own, even over your own safe zone) is actually a sacrifice, since you're placing someone else's needs and happiness even at the cost of losing yourself. You know you won't win much but you don't care at that moment and give in anyway.

Nowadays which gender does that the most, men or women? I think it's women now. Several long-term relationships are ending in break-ups and the woman ends up sad her time and years were wasted for nothing. She gave most of her prime years (her market value) and lost. Then she'll just be another forgotten past ex girlfriend. Sometimes that very same man finds someone else and forms a family with her within 2 years or less, much less than the time that woman gave away for nothing. She didn't benefit from that.

I’m 40, she’s 39 and both of us spent way too much time navigating the dating world. We’ve both been told since turning 30 to date men 10 to 20 years older. I’ve been more open to it than she was. She’s still not open to it. She’s really pretty so her looks aren’t an issue, but she gets passed over and dumped CONSTANTLY by men our age for younger women and the last time really hurt her.

I started dating a man age 54 last year and have never been happier, and dating him taught me two things: 1.) it’s really true that men like to be a little bit older than their women and 2.) men need to feel lucky to have a woman in order for a relationship to work (my boyfriend and I both know how lucky we are to have each other, but he courted and pursued me like no man my own age ever did). My friend has not accepted this yet, and it’s such a shame because my boyfriend has a friend who is perfect for her. The guy met her one time and has been begging me ever since to set him up with her and he’s been pursuing her nonstop but she won’t give him a chance just because he’s 60. She says the age gap is too big and she won’t date him because he’s 20 years older even though he treats women really well, can give her the life and love she deserves and can also respect all of the wonderful qualities that she has to offer.

That man has outright told me that he wants someone our age. How can I make her see that women our age are better off with men that age?

She said the oldest she’ll date is 50.

Am I right when I say middle aged women in their late 30’s should be dating men in their late 50’s/early 60’s? Is she right that the age gap is too big?