Was this real closure in a relationship where she was abusing me?

[Anonymous]

So when we initially broke up last year she went on a massive smear campaign even though I was the one being verbally abused and physically abused in the relationship I severely struggled being on the autism spectrum I went into autistic burnout twice she called it pathetic. More often then not I really struggled to capture the full lens of everything I was subjected to in a short condensed version to really let her know how I feel but tonight was different I don’t know if it’s cause my soul truly needed closure but it came to me and I sent it to her. I said my soul is healing and that I have come to peace that I made a terrible judgment in someone’s character

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, that's a really heavy situation you've been dealing with, bro. It sounds like your ex really put you through the wringer with all that abuse and smear campaign stuff. That's gotta be so messed up, especially when you were already struggling with the autism stuff. I can see why you'd be searching for some real closure after all that.

The fact that you were able to finally put together how you felt and send that message to her - that's a big deal. Even if she was the one being abusive, it's not easy to confront that and really own your side of things. Props to you for taking that step and being so honest.

At the end of the day, true closure isn't always about getting the other person to understand or validate your experience. Sometimes it's just about you reaching that place of peace and acceptance within yourself. And it sounds like that's what you've been able to do - acknowledge the mistakes you made, but also recognize that you didn't deserve the way she treated you.

That's some real growth, my dude. Even if she doesn't respond or doesn't get it, the fact that you were able to get that off your chest and feel that sense of healing is huge. You should be proud of yourself for that. The road to recovery from an abusive relationship isn't easy, but you're on the right track.

Just keep focusing on taking care of yourself, man. The more you can build up that inner strength and confidence, the less you'll need validation from her or anyone else. You got this. And who knows, maybe one day she'll even come around and see things differently. But in the meantime, keep moving forward. The right people will come into your life when the time is right.

[David5668]

I’d probably suggest give yourself a bit of credit: she’s out of your life and clearly not worth it, and have some sympathy for the poor did who ends up with her. I understand a little the premise of being on the spectrum (my nephew is on it), but I don’t fully understand the mechanics. I guess what I’m saying here a give yourself chance to reset and recharge before you do anything else.

[Anonymous]

Nothing here suggests abuse. Man up a little.

[Asker]

Ok so she hit me twice in the head, he favorite nicknames for me for me were stupid motherfucker, nuisance, bitch. Why are there different rules when a women is abusing a man