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You have this guy friend you've known for ten years. He likes you- he's asked you on dates before but you've always said "no" because you don't want a relationship. But you're close. He comforts you when you struggle- most recently with the loss of a family member, flying to a different state to care for your nephews. You talk and hang out often, sometimes at each others' places. He is always there for you and stops whatever he's doing to help you. He recently bought a house and took a management position at a major company. Your mom likes him. You feel safe around him and trust him with your life.

He recently started dating a girl. He's even introduced you to her. You immediately become jealous and insecure. You call and text your "friend" more often, telling him you "think of him". You buy him things that you know he likes. You drop subtle criticisms about his girlfriend. You invite him over for dinner one evening. He feels something is "off" but you say everything is "fine". Your conversations seem normal and casual. He continues talking about his girlfriend and being excited to meet her family. You're confused. You don't know if you really love him or not.

You can't take it anymore and decide to ghost him. Cold turkey. No contact. Your friend is obviously confused and worried. After a month of ignoring him, he comes to your apartment door. He knocks but you don't answer. It's pouring rain outside. He has keys to your place but he doesn't come inside. He sits down with his back against the door and begins talking as if you're there. He says he loves you; that he always has. He observes you're hurting and he says he's a bad friend for hurting you, but he doesn't know why. He says he will walk out of your life if means you'll be happier, but he at least wanted to say goodbye. He stops talking. You...

I saw this girl I know who has a boyfriend, flirting with some random guy who isn't her boyfriend... She kept saying he has a cute voice and handsome and all this shit.

But this girl would never go out with him since she secretly has a boyfriend that he doesn't know about, and would say no if he ever asked her out.

So what is the reason for her flirting with him if she has a boyfriend already and no intention of ever dating this guy? It's pointless.

I'm not an incel but I feel woman always have negative intentions, she's probably only flirting with this guy to get his hopes up and think he has a chance with her... Jus so she can then eventually say "Ew what the heck noway, j already have a boyfriend you creep, why would I go out with you, I was jus being friendly"...

It's like they jus do it so they can eventually insult the guy cos they get off hurting others or something and love seeing others upset and insulted?
Is my theory correct?

This is why I would never flirt back with a girl.. I don't trust them... Weird intentions... Not sincere...