Ladies and Gentles, I have a question?

[jasco]

You know how their are men out their who call themselves players and gets loads of girls right? Cool with that out of the way, their are girls online everywhere saying this is how to get a girl, this way or that way. Several guys follow it and from I see most of the time it doesn't work. Yet the players are doing things entirely different and their getting the girls that they want. A lot of people say its because of their bad boy mentality or something. I feel like its more about what type of girl you go after, where and when. Women are different, their isn't really a general rule for women when it comes to dating other than the obvious ones like make her laugh, smile, be nice, inviting and so on. I feel like the men we call players/ bad boys are just really good talkers/ manipulators. Due to their somewhat natural charm along with good looks, it doesn't take them long to get a girl that they want. I feel like the ones who follow the ladies advice may just not understand how to used it properly and their fore in end getting hurt because they did what the other girls said and it went out wrong. My question is do you feel like maybe a lot of guys just don't know how to apply the right pressure and push the right buttons in order to get a girl? of course theirs more to it but just mentally speaking.

[Lliam]

I think you're onto something.

Successful guys, whether they are "nice guys" or "bad boys", have similar behaviors. Their self esteem gives then a confident, devil may care, attitude. They seem interesting, fun, a bit mysterious and dangerous.

I say dangerous only in the sense of being bold, capable of taking care of themselves, and the things a woman might imagine having done to her when alone with him. Most women do like the excitement of male dominance in bed.

The differences between bad boys and successful nice guys are:
Nice guys are honest and genuine. They don't put on an act or lie.
Nice guys actually care about women's feelings
Nice guys have ethics and values.
Nice guys are capable of remaining loyal and building a relationship if they find the right woman.

Women are turned off by men they perceive to be weak. A guy who acts desperate appears weak and lacking self confidence. He's not a catch because anyone could catch him. Women like to think that he could have practically any girl but he picked her. It makes her feel special.

Easy going wit, cleverness, perceptiveness, attentiveness are attractive. Self confidence makes a girl wonder what he knows about himself that she doesn't... yet.

So, the difference between a bad boy and a successful good guy is, bad boys just want to use women and throw them away like tissues when they are done. They're looking for notches on their belts, not relationships full of infatuation, romance, and connection.

But it's hard for women to tell bad boys and self-confident good guys apart.

[OlderAndWiser]

Guys who are most successful with girls are those who exude confidence; that is a natural aphrodisiac to most women. Players have confidence and they consciously use it.

[jasco]

Ok than

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Depends, if just trying to get laid or an actual relationship... Oh players can get lots of women for sex, but they wouldn't be able to/can't keep em for ltr.
Some Men don't realize if they're looking for a ltr, they actually have the advantage over a player/fuckboy..

[demonics]

1. Be attractive.
2. Don't be unattractive.

These days you can be genuinely illiterate but, if you're 6ft, in shape, have "nice eyes" (whatever that means) you'll have no problems. I call it the nurse/dope dealer dynamic. She's a professional woman with her sht together but then you see her boyfriend pick her up from work, in her car, (across the street so no one else sees) and dude is literally this mofo:

None of that other stuff matters. Under 6ft? You're invisible to 80% of women. Broke AND unattractive? Invisible to 90% of women. Broke but good looking? *see Jeremy Meeks. Oh you're in there!

[razelove]

It is a lot about time, place, and your target. Much more than that is persistence and probability.

If you get discouraged by being shot down and quit, of course you won't get laid. If you hit on every woman in your region on every dating site, then in every bar, if you don't get laid it's a miracle.

Of course, if you find a relationship that's one too.

[MagicCarpet1]

It's EZ to snag dem hoes in da hoodz if yo a playa.

[Anonymous]

Girls don’t even know what they want. Don’t listen to females advice unless it’s about bettering yourself and making money.

[Fuentes]

Girls are horrible at picking up yhemselves from a mans perspective fresh and fit proved that.