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Long story short, I am constantly being hurt. Racially profiled and gaslighted. I HATE IT HERE in Pasadena. I want to move to Glendale.

I have faced a lot of racial discrimination and gaslighting, mostly indirect, by people trying to make me have a "feel good" mentality. Ever since a Hispanic girl from a high school (where I used to go) blocked me off of Instagram I have never felt the same and I have started to trust people much less.

Today at LA Fitness I was recording myself teaching weight loss tricks with a one-liter Gatorade bottle and this boomer karen (guy) accused me of recording him. I never felt discriminated or gaslighted like this before, but when I told on him to an employee (both people are white, the employee has a 999 tattoo with a reverse Christian cross symbol), and explained to him about the racist situation (because IT WAS RACIST duh), I was gaslighted and asked upon, "How was it racist?" As if he was CONDONING the karen's behavior...

Screw you Joe Biden and screw you Donald Trump for allowing people to treat my people like sh*t... Ron DeSantis is the only non-divisive way forward

I hate to say it but as man I usually have my mind made up within 30 seconds of meeting a woman of how physically attracted I am to her.

Emotional attraction does still weigh heavily into it though. She can be hot af but if I can’t stand her personality and/or she’s has no genuine interest in me I can move on. I can also move on a lot faster nowadays vs. when I was younger.

But the issue is often come across women I find that are 5’s or 6’s. They aren’t repugnant or anything but I don’t feel any butterfly’s in my stomach either. More often than not they really like me because while I am nice to them I also don’t bend over backwards for them either. I’m just as happy to be there or not be there. Either way is fine. So it’s easy to be myself.

But as a man I find that the ugly truth is I have never found myself growing in attraction for average looking women despite some of them having excellent personalities. I really have tried to “check myself” on this. Tell myself to look deeper. Tell myself to “grow up”. Feel guilty af about it.

But if tried to force myself to date and commit to average looking yet great personality girls in the past. It always ends in disaster. I quickly lose interest in sex and find myself having less patience about their problems. And I know that’s not fair at all.

Is it possible for a man to slowly fall in love with a woman he isn’t attracted to?

I am asking this because I have an opportunity to get married to an average looking girl who is outstanding in all other ways. She’s a very hard worker, respectful, excellent personality, moderate conservative, has no vices, etc. She’s also younger (27) yet mature and independent.

Yet she has a rather unattractive face and I feel Iike complete shit saying that. She’s was born with that those facial features and has zero control over them. I keep kicking myself not to judge that but it’s hard.