There is a young woman at my local CF gym I asked out a few months ago (just to get breakfast). I did talk to her a lot prior to that. I was trying to figure out if she was taken (she never mentioned her boyfriend) and what her interest level was. She always smiled and gave me positive body language when we chatted.
Anyway one day I asked her if she liked to get breakfast. She smiled at me but said “thanks but I have a bf”. That didn’t surprise me. I just responded with “oh I didn’t know that. Well I respect that. I won’t ask again”. Of course it a bit awkward seeing her after that at CF classes. However we were both surface polite and friendly.
Well yesterday it was a very small CF class. Just her, me and the coach. She was much more friendly than usual. When it was time to get jump ropes she looked me in the eye and smiled while asking what size I needed. She also talked about how she was studying for LSAT. Told me afterwards good job on my workout of the day. Etc.
I figure she just wants to be a “friends” and have things go back to how it was before I asked her on a date. But there was a big change in her behavior yesterday.
Anyway I’m no dummy when it comes to the friéndzone. I have no problem whatsoever being cool and friendly to girls that turn me down. I don’t get angry over that. But I learned my lesson a very long time ago about staying actual “friends” with a girl who isn’t interested or available. That’s a lose/lose scenario on my side
However I can’t help wonder if she turned me down because she’s taken (but still likes me) vs not being interested.
If it’s the former I won’t push it but I don’t mind talking to her more consistently. However if it’s the latter it’s got friéndzone written all over it. If that’s the case I’ll continue to be surface polite and friendly but not “friends”.
But it would be nice to know where I really stand on all go that.
