How do I know if I like her or just want her?

[Anonymous]

Someone told me the problem with playing hard to get is that it makes people “want you” more but meanwhile “like you” a lot less.

I met this girl three months ago and really liked her, and I can tell she likes me a lot too. But she keeps playing hard to get and wanted me to chase her. After three months of chasing, we still haven’t had a real date yet, and I’m not sure I like her that much anymore. I used to think about her all day and now I don’t when I’m with my friends. I do feel much stronger urge to pursue her though, and she is still playing hard to get.

I stopped chasing after her from last week, and told her this is not the way to start a healthy relationship. People told me she has been crying. I think my strong feeling now is just wanting her, not liking her anymore. Am I wrong? Is there any better way to end this? I don’t want to hurt her feelings either

[Biancam13]

She's playing games with you. I would say that's a red flag tbh and not to bother anymore. Yes us women want to be pursued, but her doing it to this extent is not good.

[Asker]

Thank you!

[marshmallowcream]

There’s no point or you talking to her (no reason to feel bad ) if a girl likes you she would defo go on a date wayy before that 3 month mark

[Asker]

That’s a good point! Thank you!

[Ironic_Method]

I don't pursue anyone playing hard to get, not worth the time.

[Guy13]

You date her first…

[Asker]

She was busy for twice, I didn’t bother to ask her for the third time, and she is mad at me now

[Guy13]

Women... can't hardly get it right. I have this dating rule I go by. 3 dates (strikes) and you are out. I like ti give it 3 dates as a sampling. At that point, one at least has a friend as there was serious and honest attempt made. Think that applies here? She's on Strike 2. ONE more strike and then you send her to the Outfield?

[Asker]

Appreciate your point of view. I’m not going to waste my time on someone who has been busy for twice. How do I know if I actually like her when she does not even go out with me. Our feelings toward each other are just illusions based on imagination, not based on who we really are

[Guy13]

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[Naamjoon]

It's not she is playing, there is a guy who cheses me i avoid him because I am not sure if I should get in relationship ore not like wise she must be confused or may be she is really playing.