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As a guy, I've lived this. Ever since I was 12 I always had negative thoughts of myself, making me retreat, keep to myself, and away from anything hardly ever feeling like i mattered to much of anyone.. never went to a friends house. Hell, I hardly even went outside at all. I have been mostly very withdrawn socially ever since, so it just surprises me if any woman, would actually be okay with that and still like to be in a relationship with him

The way I see it, most women want the kind of guy that is sociable, strong minded, and outgoing, which i believe usually makes the woman a lot more honestly attracted to him, because I just feel like most women want a singular type of guy, and wouldn't be able to stand being in a relationship with a guy that isn't what they dream of or want. Especially if he is some shy quiet depressed guy, and I really doubt most women would actually want to help their boyfriend out of being depressed because it would be another pity party they wouldn't want to be invited to. But I kinda can't blame them. Because it's tough being with someone depressed you'd love to enjoy happy moments with them but trying to pull them through their depression and helping them realize that there are and can be better days ahead takes a lot of effort, and persistence. But what I also realize better days, better things and better relationships come because of the effort and persistence from people that care enough to help things be better.

I feel like a couple usually never stay happy together if only one of them is honestly willing to be there for them

Every time I've been in a holding cell, most of the other guys arrested were there for not paying child support. They told me they go in front of the judge, pay some token amount from the money in their pocket, get released, move, get a new job before their wages can get clipped too bad, and repeat the cycle.

Most of them saying because the kid isn't theirs. One of my friends convinced himself of that to the point of signing over his parental rights because his ex just didn't want to deal with him anymore.

Anyway, it seems like a lot of the negative, for men and women, could simply be avoided with paternity tests before making that paternity legally binding on a birth certificate, or changing how that works outside marriage, I don't know.

It seems doable though.