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Okay so… 👀

Which is worse?

• Someone you like, talking about a crush

OR

• Someone you like, talking about an ex

(ohhhhh let’s get ready to rumbleeee 🎪🤹‍♂️🤺🤼‍♂️🤼‍♀️🥊🛎️)

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I’ve started seeing this man recently, and he’s great and we have a lot in common. There’s a natural chemistry. Obviously there have been a few heated moments but we haven’t slept together. We’ve gone out twice and have plans tomorrow and Friday and I know he wants to sleep with me, but he texts me in between, asks questions about me, my family, my day, etc. and it doesn’t feel like that’s all he wants but I’m not sure. I feel like guys who just want to get laid just wait for that. I should also mention that he drives over a half hour to see me even though he knows I’m not ready for all of that yet. Only issue is we have only been able to go out at night due to our work schedules

This year I decided to move in with my Grandma and cousins. All my cousins are the same age, we grew up together and get along well. One of my cousins has a best friend who we see regularly and I grew quite fond of him. I had pushed my feelings to the side for a while but as our conversations with each other grew more frequent, my feelings grew. So one day, I confessed and he has also admitted to liking me too for a while.

We talked/flirted heavily with each other for like the first week after we confessed. We're both hopeless romantics, both fell hard and talked about a future together. However, he wanted to tell his best friend (my cousin) what was going on first before taking things further. Needless to say, things didn't go well. There's a 'rule' that my cousin's friends shouldn't go for close family and vice versa because in simple terms, it would complicate things. Also, I found out that this guy has a lot of issues in the romance dept and has led girls on in the past and his ex is kinda still in the picture (I've heard this from my cousins) there's a toxic pattern which he has never learned from apparently😭 He has told me that after talking to my cousin, he realised he wasn't ready to date despite his eagerness before. So we ended things on good terms and stopped talking. He's also not going to visit us as regularly.

Its been a week and my heart is SO heavy. I miss him so much. I grieve the future we could have had together cause I've literally never clicked with someone so fast.

I've talked to other close family about it and they think its none of my cousin's business, also dont understand why we can't figure things out together and believe my cousin is being manipulative. But my cousin would know his friend best right? There's also that bro code. I dont wanna ruin a close friendship.

But I don't know, should I text him? I miss talking to him, but it might further complicate an already fragile situation. Help?

The man I love and dated for a few months before he got sick, said months ago that he isn't sure we will ever get back together. However, he has steadily moved on to constantly hugging me, daily sometimes for hours long tickling me, random unnecessary touching my arm or my back, rubbing my neck, brushing my arms up and down the sides like he is trying to warm me up before I walk home in the cold. He refuses to let me hide my face when I laugh from him tickling me because I feel ugly and silly. Constantly tells me he thinks I'm beautiful. Something I can't belive myself. We often walk down the street holding hands or hugging as we walk. He even playfully tugs me back when I try to pull away. There are friend hugs and then there are something more hugs. I can't tell if he knows the difference. He ensures I eat and sleep, texts and calls. We bearly go a day apart or not in contact. However, he hasn't kissed me, or said he has changed his mind. It's SUPER complicated because his illness effects memory, knowing his own feelings, picking up on other's feelings, and even physical elements, therefore I'm not sure if all I stated above hints he might still be romantically interested or if I'm just wishful thinking. Sometimes I feel so foolish because logically he could be in love with me or interested in me but isn't ready for more yet because of the way things are for him health wise. Then there is a strong chance I'm just a huge fool. Any advice would be appreciated.