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I'm hurting right now and very upset. My suspicious were confirmed just 2 days ago when my husband left his FB messenger open. It was messages between him and my SIL (sister-in-law). He admitted to her that he always loved his ex girlfriend Olivia from his much younger years. They met as 9 year-olds playmates, then dated for a short time in their Sophomore year of HS, she broke up the next year and met someone else.

The woman is married but still has him on his FB contact list as friends. He admitted to my SIL that he still loves her more than me. He loves me but I'm not really his first option. He would've wanted to have kids with her. He also said it was true what he once told me while drunk when we were just dating. Then this was the hurting part for me, the SIL asked if he would leave me if Olivia were to get divorced now and she reciprocated his feelings and he reply was a ''Yes, unfortunately I would leave (my name) but that'll never happen. I have to accept being in Olivia's forever friendzone''.

Flashback to the time we were just boyfriend and girlfriend:

We were drinking and while making love, he called me by her name. He literally said ''Oh Olivia, I love you... yeah''. Then tried to fix it right away when I got upset immediately. He called it a stupid drunken mistake and how we would never get drunk like that ever again and even reconfirmed me a bunch of times that he got over her already. I stupidly believed him.

Is this fair? We have a 7 year-old son and he's still obsessing over her? He never got over her and just got with me as second best.

So I haven’t been official with my boyfriend for very long but he’s number one Snapchat best friends with the girl he was with before me.

To preface, I was told he liked me about 6 months ago but he never did anything about it. We were on and off number one snapchat best friends for months but he kept losing the heart and I got off the app because of it.

We were also texting for months and finally he asked me out. Come to find out he asked me out a week after the girl went back to school and was planning to hang out with her that weekend!

A few weeks go by and she asks him to make it official but he said no. We were consistently dating at this point. However, even after we were official she was his number one best friend.

I got really upset and he blocked her with no hesitation, but I still feel like he’s only using me as a placeholder. He keeps saying that’s obviously not true because he chose to be official with me and not her, but I don’t like how he had to wait to ask me out until she left. And I don’t like how they kept talking until it turned into a fight.

I don’t have any reason not to trust him as of now other than that, but my self esteem is still sort of in shambles.

What do you all think?

My boyfriend of 4 years, relatively a good and loyal man. He has a group of friends since high school. Two of them got married (guy and a girl) but divorced. Anyways the girl texted him asking if he remembers a concert in which they all went to way back in high school to which he responded with yes I do remember. She said oh so and so didn’t remember you being there and he responded with I remember a lot of half naked girls dancing on stage and kass saying to me “did you get a chubb watching that” to which i said I lowkey did. I was immediately offended and heartbroken to why he would mention that memory to her and it was entirely inappropriate. I mentioned to him and he said I understand why you would be upset I’m sorry I was just remembering a memory and it was a long time ago we weren’t together and I said not the point it’s the fact that your mentioning this to your female friend and he said she’s my best friends ex wife and my bestfriend I don’t look at her that way. To which I stayed silent and he asked if this was “resolved” I said I don't know I’m bothered and that’s it. Am I overreacting?