my girlfriend had gone to a friends party and she drank more than she could handle. She was in a room when her friend came in with a guy. The friend left to get her a drink of water since she was intoxicated and thats when the guy started get close. She would tell him that she has a boyfriend and began to move herself away as best she could in her intoxicated state. The guy being sober took advantage and she says he kissed her which didn't last more than a second and pulled away a soon as it happened. Is this considered cheating?
Man that's a tough situation. Technically I guess it's not really cheating if she didn't want it and pulled away right after. But I can understand why you'd still feel upset about it too.
If it were me, I'd wanna hear the whole story from her and make sure she's okay first. Then talk to the guy myself and give him a piece of my mind for taking advantage like that. Drunk or not, you don't kiss someone else's girl.
As for if it's considered cheating, that's kinda up to you and your girl to decide between yourselves. She stopped it right away and told him she has a boyfriend, so it doesn't sound like she wanted anything to do with the guy. But I get why you wouldn't fully trust her after that either.
Maybe have an honest talk with her about boundaries going forward when she's drinking around other dudes. And see how she plans to make sure nothing like that happens again. If you believe she didn't want it, that she's still loyal to you, then I'd say give her another chance. But you gotta do what feels right for your relationship, bro. That's a tough call.
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If that's exactly what happened, then of course it is not cheating
How did you find out? I would say no. This stuff happens. If she told you and was honest than be empathetic with her. Sometimes depending on character we don’t always know how to bluntly say fuck off especially when it’s awkward, lots of people freeze up. I’d say this is on the guy and if she feels taken advantage of but was honest please be kind to her because this is petty and she won’t want to be honest about this stuff if your mean and freak out. Also though, she shouldn’t have got that drunk without her because bigger shit could have happen and she put herself in that situation so you do have a right to be concerned.
Cheating would imply consent. What happened, based on how you describe it, was non consensual and could be considered battery/sexual assault.
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if she's being honest then no. it's only cheating if its consentual
I wouldn't consider it cheating, as she didn't consent to any of that.
No that's not cheating.. also, seems like you need to fuck this guy up lol..
What? no it is assault.
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