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I met this guy, I really like him but the whole situation is messy, we both have trust issues and can’t trust each other. We’re so different in so many things that even our friends don’t understand why we’re together. He’s a really extrovert outgoing guy we had a Tumultuous past, all you can imagine! And I’m the total opposite. For some reasons we love each other but it’s really toxic, it makes us really anxious specially me all day because I’m scared that he change his mind. Some of my friends who know him told me that yes he’s not a bad guy but I deserve x100 better, that I shouldn’t lower my standards just for him, that if have nothing to give me, that this bad boy guy loving a kind sweet girl is so cliché and I’ll regret this if I don’t stop now before falling a love. What should I do? Please help me I’m so so lost…

So I have dated very few people and only really thought of it after knowing them a long time ‘& only by the time I was already falling in love or already IN love, tho still was not ready for a relationship and even ambivalent about just dating. I have never ever dated to experience & learn better how to date- dating was only after thought to my interest in a specific person.

it occurred to me that this can be very problematic. If you very rarely like anyone I think you can have a false- positive impression of their character. Just bc I’m so very rarely interested in someone this does not mean that anyone I AM interested in os necessarily good for me as a person/ partner or is even a good person at all.

And ultimately in my opinion experience is crucial. Every train wreck I’ve encountered on romantic scenarios was not due to anyone being evil but bc I had no clue WTF I was doing bc I was not used to caring about someone that I was also “into”. And I was extremely uncomfortable dealing with certain inevitable vulnerability etc plus brain freeze 😂

Anyhow , I think in interest of self development & interpersonal capability , I should consider dating as part of regular life & not a rare artifact that maybe I’ll encounter in a lifetime.

Now, when I say date I mean meeting you getting acquainted. I do not mean hook ups or vetting people for whatever agenda. Just getting to know people in a romantic contexts.

Of course I’ll be upfront so no one’s tine will be wasted if they are expecting sex or something heavily physical quickly. I’m Audi not interested in anyone paying for anything so no one is getting explored with no return.

Would it bother you to be asked out by someone who wasn’t blown away by you but was open to getting to know you?