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In this story some man's girlfriend didn't accept his proposal for these reasons:

Finding out it was a real proposal and seeing the proof was the only reason she came back. She's putting things on hold at this moment, wants me to keep the ring and ask again in a year from now. She'll make a final decision by then. If she's ready sooner, she'll tell me to ask again but for the meantime only refer to her as my girlfriend.

She can't accept it now due to my past pranking history and carefree attitude. She pointed out that a month before the hurtful proposal prank that made her feel insecured in the relationship, I've made jokes about having Covid too (faking coughing) and acted inconsiderate towards others, had a history of sometimes being late to our dates, sometimes delay on paying some bills and doing things at the last minute even when I had enough time. Meanwhile I've stopped doing pranks and improving, she said I need to change more before she considers marriage. I admit, I was unpunctual with my last bill last month. Lastly, she doesn't really care about the ring nor the cost but thought my proposal was lame and it lacked creativity and enthusiasm, as if I wasn't even trying. She couldn't understand why I was creative with the fake proposal but couldn't do the same with the real proposal, put more effort into it.

She doesn't want to marry him. She's postponing things. He pranked a proposal once and hurt her but when he did it for real, she wasn't excited anymore.

My crush and I are different race. I’m a WOC (indian) and he’s Chinese. I honestly don’t have the guts to ask him this question (if race and skin colour matters in a relationship to him) cause I’m afraid that his answer might hurt me and I honestly think that it matters to him. It sucks tbh. So to all my Chinese friends, would you date an Indian girl? And whyy? Please do give me more context on why you would cause I don’t wanna feel insecure about my race and skin colour because of a boy. I don’t think it’s worth it. I’ve been pretty confident and comfortable with my race and skin colour recently especially after being bullied for most my elementary and high school life. But I’m afraid that I’m gonna fall back into being insecure about it. Pleaseeee helppp!!