Why do we still feel insecure?

[Maybe_1day]

We love, we trust and no doubt there... but why do we still feel insecure?
How many out there loves and trusts their partner but still feel insecure?
In most case it happens out of jealousy (even if not extreme) or when they are friends or in communication with the opposite genders.
How can we overcome this unnecessary insecurity?
After all we don't wanna ruin the good relationship we have, and also they haven't done anything to cause it. It's just a stigma built within inside us and it's becoming toxic.

[normalice]

We are a species that survived somewhat exclusively by our cooperation with other members of our species. We are not large or fast. We can barely see or smell. If you dropped any of us in the middle of the Amazon and said to have a nice life, chances are good it wouldn't be a particularly long one - and certianly not one conducive to propagating the species.

So, what we as a species ended up doing to survive the elements was develop the instinct to stand together in defiance of the rules (not laws) of nature. And that development included a lot of complex checks and balances (which is kind of yet another rule of nature, but that's another topic). The fear that nebulous environmental forces could come after us is one of those checks - it makes us force ourselves to want to belong to a group - for protection, if nothing else. And the drive to seek ways to be useful to that group is thus also a check, to ensure the group is capable of that protection. Insecurity is ultimately just the idea that you might get rejected by a your group and be left to fend for yourself. In modern times this is a bit haywire as groups are not well defined and tend to get changed up constantly for many people. Plus with money being both real and fake, it's hard to admit to ourselves that money can be another hostile element of the environment, despite it being very difficult to otherwise explain what poverty does to people.

[TroyDT2]

Insecurity often comes from the fact that you do not have control. The truth is that someone can adore the other person and always seek the better for the SO, but that SO can still blow it all up. And if they are married or even just financially entangled it can take years and years to financially recover. Imagine spending 10 or 20 years working towards financial freedom and watching it all blow up in a minute on someone else's whim.

[Guy13]

Fear of failure, rejection, and being a laughing stock.

[boggboss]

Learn to challenge toxic thoughts u might have as if u trust your partner that trust should be able to qwell thoughts like that

[haooy]

Because I bullied as child and although I am tough there is always this thing at the back of my head that someone is making fun of me.
I am average looking who haven't been sure about anything.

[bubblegunnn]

Cuz we always compares ourself to people outside